Living With Chronic Pain: Psychological and Emotional Effects
Pain hurts, but chronic pain not only hurts, it also takes a toll on your mental and emotional well-being. Chronic pain can lead to loss of enjoyment, chronic fatigue, and depression. This depression exacerbates the sensation of pain and a vicious cycle is perpetuated.
I’ve been suffering from chronic pain since 1999, when I had a car accident that left me with a permanent neck injury and migraines. The accident caused the muscles in my neck to tighten to the point of causing compression in my cervical vertebrae, specifically C1, C2, and C3.
Compression of these three vertebrae can cause migraines because the vertebrae put pressure on the thecal sac. This sac surrounds the spinal cord and contains the cerebral spinal fluid. In essence, it is an extension of the dura mater that surrounds the brain. Putting pressure on the sac cuts off the flow of fluid resulting in a migraine. Stress inevitably makes the compression worse.
My neck hurts constantly whether I have a migraine or not. On days I have a migraine, the pain in my neck is usually worse than usual. Rainy and stormy days make the pain worse, and the winter months can be agonizing.
Some days are better than others, but even on good days I can’t turn my neck all the way to the right or left. I take several medications, but they really only take the edge off the pain. In the past 15 years, I can count on one hand the number of days I’ve had without pain and still have fingers left over.
This type of chronic pain is suffered by approximately 116 million Americans. That’s 116 million people that suffer long term pain, and many of them suffer with it daily. The pain itself is stressful and exacerbates any stress life throws at us. The extra stress has an extremely detrimental effect on a person’s overall mental status.
Biphasic Sleep for Arthritis
I have found that breaking my sleep into segments has helped to alleviate the stiffness I usually have upon waking. I’ve been following a biphasic sleep schedule, which has given me more time in my day and has also alleviated almost all of the stiffness I used to get after a traditional night’s sleep.
Biphasic sleep consists of two sleep segments. One segment is three or 4.5 hours long, and the second segment is 1.5 hours long. If you'd like more information about the benefits of this type of sleep pattern, you may read my article: Biphasic Sleep Patterns.
Cognitive Impairment Caused by Chronic Pain
Chronic pain can make already forgetful people even more forgetful. I’m an absentminded person to begin with and the pain only makes it worse.
On days my pain is greater than normal, I do notice I suffer from aphasia, which is an impairment of language. I tend to forget words I would normally be able to think of readily, like medical terminology. Interestingly, aphasia is part of my prodrome prior to a migraine as well.
Inability to Focus
When the only thing you can focus on is pain, it’s hard to focus on anything else. Right now, I’m sitting here trying to write this article, and the only thing I can really think about is my pounding headache.
Anyone with chronic pain can tell you the more they try to focus on something else, the greater the pain gets. Many chronic pain sufferers have arthritis which makes sitting for more than even a few minutes painful. I have a hard time sitting to write simply because my neck gets so stiff. I have to get up and walk around to relieve the pain, which breaks my concentration.
Not only can the pain interfere with getting quality sleep, but the depression can make it difficult to fall and stay asleep. After a day of severe pain, I tend to oversleep because I’m so tired from tolerating the intense pain.
Oversleeping just makes things worse, however. After 8 hours of sleep, my neck is stiffer than a board, and most of the time I wake up with a headache.
People with arthritis tend to have the same problem. Lying in a bed for 8 hours leads to stiff joints because inflammation is able to build up and muscles tighten because they aren’t being used.
Psychological Effects of Chronic Pain
Depression and Anxiety
Chronic pain can break a person’s spirit. The idea of having to live life in pain is enough to depress anyone, but actually doing it can force the person into deep depression. It's essentially daily torture.
The pain makes it difficult to want to do things that were previously enjoyed. Playing with kids or grand-kids, outdoor activities, even household chores can exacerbate the pain forcing the person to avoid these activities.
If they do engage in such activities, the enjoyment once felt is no longer a reality, which leads to further depression.
Many chronic pain sufferers, including myself, are on antidepressants in an effort to prevent the plummet to rock bottom, but it doesn’t always work. The pain inevitably surpasses the ability of the medication to alleviate symptoms.
Some chronic pain sufferers lose their job or are on disability because they can’t work. This not only leads to financial stress and being unable to provide for the family, it also causes feelings of worthlessness, and uselessness making suicide ideation become more commonplace.
Breakdown of Relationships
Many chronic pain sufferers live alone either because a marriage ended, or the pain has forced them to isolate themselves.
People who do not experience this type of pain have a hard time understanding and tolerating those who do. Chronic pain has no visible symptoms, meaning other people can't see that you are suffering. It's not like a broken arm or other visible injury. Because of this, many people think that chronic pain sufferers are "faking it." This can lead to further isolation.
Trying to be a parent and living with pain is extremely difficult. The frustration that builds up from constantly being miserable inevitably gets taken out on those closest to you, including your kids.
Since I chose to homeschool my daughter and spend all day with her, she gets the brunt of my frustration (as does my husband) despite my attempts to contain it. This is the case with most families of chronic pain sufferers, and it typically forces the sufferer into isolation, or at least into feeling like they are isolated.
Isolation, or the feeling of it, causes the sufferer to withdraw from all social relationships, not just family ones. Intimate spousal relationships are often severely affected but not necessarily because of a lack of interest in sexual intimacy.
Although it’s hard to think about making love when your head is pounding or you can’t turn your neck at all, there is a definite need to feel intimate with your spouse if just to feel normal. Tolerating chronic pain takes a lot of energy, and most people who suffer with it also suffer from chronic fatigue. This tends to drive a wedge between spouses.
Do You or Someone You Know Suffer with Chronic Pain?
This is just a small list of some of the side effects of chronic pain. The psychological and emotional effects of chronic pain can vary widely from person to person. These effects are tempered by the sufferer's pain tolerance level.
The longer you deal with chronic pain, the higher your pain tolerance becomes. On the flip side of this, tolerance to pain medications also becomes higher, making it necessary to take more medication to feel any relief. This, in and of itself, can exacerbate the psychological symptoms.
If you or someone you know suffers with chronic pain, seek help. Contact psychiatrists, doctors or support groups to help you or your loved one prevent the psychological symptoms of chronic pain.
Most importantly, keep in mind that chronic pain can't be seen, but that doesn't make it any less real. Anyone you come in contact with could be suffering chronic pain, and you should treat them accordingly.
© 2012 Melissa Flagg