What It Feels Like to Be in a Coma

Updated on March 12, 2017
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I am a freelance writer. I enjoy writing about my favorite recipes, health-related topics, and anything creative.

My Story

I was born with a rare genetic disorder—but I did not actually experience any symptoms or complications until I was 10 years old. As you might imagine, this created a lot of challenges because I was at a very critical age in terms of growth and development.

One of the challenges was that because of my age, I remember almost everything I went through. If I'd gone through this as a baby, of course, I wouldn't have remembered anything. But the experience of being a relatively healthy 10-year-old, and then suddenly being ambushed with a life-threatening illness, was very intense.

Now, I will write other articles in the future about the details of my condition, but in this particular article I'd like to tell you about what it feels like to be in a coma.

Recently I was telling my sister what it felt like to be put into a drug-induced coma and hooked up to a ventilator. When I looked up and saw the horrified look on her face it dawned on me: I was speaking as if this was an everyday experience, a normal topic of conversation. However, she, who has never had any major health problems, was totally freaked out by what I was saying. I decided I should write about my story for those who have loved ones who are going through this experience, or for those who are just curious.

My intentions are not to upset anyone or freak anyone out—especially if you have a loved one who is going through this right now. What I'd like to do is share what it felt like for me.

I Was in a Drug-Induced Coma

There I was, in the hospital again. Briefly, I will say my illness has to do with my intestines, and I have had about 24 feet of it removed over the course of about 10 surgeries. I was in the ICU after a very lengthy surgery that left my body unable to stay alive without assistance from a ventilator. I was put into a drug-induced coma because the pain from the surgery and the ventilator was so great that I was at risk for going into shock. The doctors were also concerned about me not being able to tell them how much pain I was in.

When I describe what it felt like to be in a coma, it may sound a little weird because the memories flow in and out of my mind. But as I try to channel them I will write what I remember—and then try to make sense of it for my readers.

I remember hearing the voices of people around me. Everyone was staring at me and I could feel it, but I couldn't open my eyes to look at them. I remember hearing the familiar voices of my loved ones talking about my every movement like it was a miracle. "Look! She moved her finger!" someone would say. "I wonder if she can hear us?" someone else would ask. Then I heard my mom, my rock, the one with all the information (which she gathered to the best of her ability), "Yes, she can hear you." The moment I heard her say that, I relaxed because I knew that as long as she was there I was safe, and everything would be okay.

My mom then took my hand and started talking to me. She would talk to me for hours and never let go. I could feel her warm touch, and it made my heart smile deep inside, something I still had control of. I had many thoughts and emotions during this time, but I didn't have the power over my body to express them.

So I lay there, very aware of my surroundings when awake—and then I'd drift off to sleep. Because of all the drugs I was on, my sleep felt very surreal; it felt like I was in a whole other world. A world where I was on acid, and things were very similar to the movie Alice in Wonderland or Dumbo. Much later, when I was no longer in the coma, I even started telling my aunt and grandmother about the pink elephants that had been dancing around the hospital room. I felt amazed that they hadn't seen them, as I had. They'd been everywhere!

The dreams I had were crazy. I'm not sure I can recall every detail, for they made sense only in the moment.

As far as the ventilator, which is the machine that was helping me breathe, I describe it as one of the worst experiences I have ever been through—like a sort of slow torture. The machine pumps oxygen into your body and breathes for you at a set pace that is appropriate for your size and age. The odd thing was that it seemed to be set to an abnormally slow pace, and I constantly felt like I was suffocating. It felt like a slow torture where I would nearly die—and then at the last possible second I would receive more oxygen. I guess this is a normal experience, to feel like you are suffocating. Part of it has to do with the huge tube that's been inserted into the throat.

Coming Out of the Coma

After I'd been in the medically induced coma for some time, the doctors started to decrease my medication, bit by bit, so that I could actually open my eyes and communicate with my family. That was nice. I had a notepad, and I would write notes to everyone. I had to communicate through writing because it was nearly impossible, not to mention painful, to speak with a large tube in my throat.

I remember getting to see my sister, dad, stepmom, stepsister, best friend, aunts, uncles, grandparents—pretty much all my close family came to visit. They would bring presents, and I would get to open them over and over again, each time being just as surprised as the last time because I never remembered getting it before! That was pretty cool.

I remember feeling so happy to have so many loved ones surrounding me. I cannot tell you how much the support of these people helped me get through that time. Without them, I truly believe I may not be alive today.

My sister and my best friend wrote me notes—long notes expressing their love for me and telling me about everything that was going on in the world. They wrote about how I needed to hurry up and come home so I could join them once again. Keeping my hope and spirits alive, that's what they were doing.

They were beautiful notes, and I cried not only when I read them the first time, but much later when I left the hospital. I was going through my bags and bags of stuff (you acquire a lot when you are there for months at a time), and I came across these letters. To my knowledge I had never seen them before, so I ripped them open and read them all over again. I cried and cried because I really felt the sadness in the hearts of my sister and my best friend, and I couldn't imagine how it must have felt for them to see me so ill. I remember getting mad at my mom for not showing me the letters, thinking she had hid them from me so as not to cause upset. She said, "No, honey, you read and reread them many times while you were here!" I said, "Oh."

Your Presence Makes a Difference

I guess what I am trying to say is that if you have a friend or loved one who is in a coma, just know how much your being there, talking to them and holding their hand, makes a difference. I can tell you this from experience. There were a few moments where I truly felt I might have given up, had I not had my loved ones around me.

When you are there by their bedside, wondering what's going on in their head, think about my story. Talk to them; they can hear you. They can feel your presence and your touch. Even if they can't tell you how much it means to them, you are making a difference. Your presence inspires hope. You are reminding them why they are fighting to stay alive.


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      Lori Colbo 7 months ago from Pacific Northwest

      Thank you for writing this. It is of great comfort to me as my mom was semi comatose in her last 24 hours. I wanted so much for her to hear me singing Jesus loves me. She would open her eyes once in awhile but they were glazed over.

      Im so glad you survived your ordeal and have such a wonderful family.

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      Marls Berlin 9 months ago

      Firstly, I hope you are fine. I was in a sepsis induced coma for two months. I had nobody that loved me enough to come and stay with me after the first weeks. The rest of the coma time that I remember clearly was a dark horrible place, with murderers behind doors and corners, a persistent feeling of anxiety, fear and desperation and a terrible loneliness as I watched other people I loved having fun and shunning me. Nope, not a nice light in sight.

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      janine 2 years ago

      Praise God! All glory belongs to Him alone!

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      kiki 3 years ago

      i cried when i read this. i went through surgery once and now how it feels to be in that instance. i wis i hadn't dosed off so many times, but i felt is and it is hard but rewarding when you get the gifts.

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      sartjie 3 years ago

      my friend was in icu for 2days she was having breathing problem n pain on her heart bt now what am worried about is that she can't remember me or her husband.

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      Jessica 3 years ago

      I was in a medically induced coma due to my appendix having a slow leak while I was 7 months pregnant! When it ruptured they had to rush me into surgery to remove it! By that time I had so much infection throughout my entire body. After they took my appendix out the Dr. tried to stop labor because my daughter was so premature. About 8 hours after having my appendix out they has to induce labor. My body went into shock or ARDS. They induced the coma but couldn't get me out of it! I had an exploratory surgery to see if they could find the infection. They had to put A tracheotomy in because I was trying to breath over the breathing tube. My lungs ended up collapsing 11 times, and I had so much fluid on my brain they said I wouldn't ever be "normal" if I woke up. The Dr.s gave me a 12% chance to live. Needless to say I survived! I was in the come for 2.5 months then had to go to a rehabilitation hospital to learn how to walk again! It was close to a 7 month process of being in hospitals. It took me a good 3 years to get back to where I was b4 the coma. My daughter is 100% fine and other than the 16 scars I have from the surgeries, chest tubes, tracheotomy and so on I am doing well! The coma was a very strange place from my experience. I often tell people I felt like I was in the twilight zone and couldn't find my way home.

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      Howardjed 3 years ago

      массаж петтинг

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      J.M.P 3 years ago

      Someone very close to my heart is dying of A.R.D.S. It began with her diagnosis of Dermatomyositis which is an extremely rare AutoImmune Disease. 3 in 100,000 people get it with a survival rate of 60%. She is in a Drug Induced Coma. She has been for about 2 weeks. I read your story about being in this type of coma. When I see her I always talk to her, pray with her, let her know she will be one of the chosen who will be back with us. Words that are said are only in a positive way, or the fun times we had. Shortly before they put her into this coma I told her when she got out of the hospital we would go to the new casino and play the penny machines! She gave me a smile. So with your acct of the situation makes me want to go everyday! They say "Leave negativity at the door!" For her, that is no problem! Thank You for sharing your story! God Bless!

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      Christine 3 years ago

      Hello, reading all your stories hurts me and makes me happy at the same time. My mum has just passed away, last night. She had pancreatic cancer but what eventually killed her was not the actual dancer but the chemotherapy that she did not react well to. After the first half dose she seemed ok... Her blood levels weren't satisfactory for a second dose so they gave her transfusions and God knows how many other things and she felt much better. We were even thinking she might be able to come home after major surgery and moths in hospital... Then last Thursday morning they gave her a fully loaded second dose... Too much for her poor little battered body. Her kidneys started to fail, then her lungs... They induced her into a coma in UCI, put her in a respirator and millions of other noisy scary machines and drips and told us all her organs were shutting down one after the other ... The poison in her body had become too much. Night before yesterday I read you story Audrey. I felt that you were confirming my feelings... That when in a coma people have perceptions to noises and touch. The doctors told me that it was absolutely impossible, so did my sister but I did not want to believe them. I went to see her early morning kicking up a fuss as they would not let me in. Eventually they did as she only had a few hours to live... As soon as I held her cold little hand and spoke to her softly her blood pressure rose... And her heart beat increase ever so gently. I spoke to her for hours and begged my sister to join me so she could feel we were there together for her. Reluctantly my sister joined me and she felt awkward talking to our mum who could not respond in any way... But soon she warned up and we told her what we felt... What a beautifully person and a wonder mother she is and how much we all loved her, including her little grand children. We knew it was a matter of hours so we did not disguise that fact that she would soon die but instead made her look forward to re-joining all those people that had passed away many years ago that she loves so much... Her mother, her father, some closed family friends... And that we will still need her to guide us after passing away... I am not particularly religious but thinking that helps me cope. No one knows what happens after death... As far as i know no one has ever been there and back together tell the story so that helps me and it helped me telling her positive things things she might want to "look forward to"... In a strange sort of way. She was only 72 and had a very difficult life. I hope she is serene and pain free and happy in the knowldge that so many people here on earth love her to bits. Thanks Audrey your story has helped me a lot.

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      debbie macewen 3 years ago

      i was in a coma for 3 mo...had fantastic wonderful dreams...what i rember most i could tell when my daughter was there because i could smell her perfume...i now were it all the time...on 9/11 they have to repeat the orginal surgrey...god knows what is going to happen this time

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      john 3 years ago

      i was going trough your story and i thought wow she should make a book

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      Zoey Clarks 3 years ago

      Hello, I was reading an article that when a loved one talks or even touches a comatose patient, they feel excruciating pain. I was wondering if that was true? this is the website for the article: http://www.theonion.com/articles/study-finds-heari...

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      Rana 4 years ago

      I need to read more but are there different kinds of comas? My grandmother is 90 and in a coma now. It's not drug induced. So I keep asking if she can hear and the nurses say she can hear noise but not necessarily know who is talking. It's torture what u r describing. I don't think her state is the same because there's no hope of her recovering from it. If u have information please share. My grandmother had multiple strokes.

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      Regizh 4 years ago

      Thank you for the story.

      I get interested how it feels when you are in coma. Your story perfectly clarifies it.

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      Don 4 years ago

      I was in a very bad car accident (fatal for some) 8 months ago in which my intestines were perforated in a couple of places which significant swelling. I was in a German hospital for 6 weeks, ICU for 2 and induced coma for 5 days. So many thoughts that seemed rational then seem rightfully crazy now during my time under. Actually after I woke up, I was still hearing voices and imagining things so much so they had to give me antipsychotic meds for a few days. They attributed it to me coming out of my coma sooner than expected at which point they stop giving me the coma meds cold turkey. I remember my parents voices as if they were outside of the room talking about things. I thought I was actually conscious during the whole thing. I also imagined I was being moved around into different rooms which apparently I was in the same room the whole time.

      Also, being on the ventilator was terrible. I could mostly breathe on my own but I still had to suffer through it and sometimes it would try to make me breathe in when I was breathing out and vice versa. I couldn't talk unless they gave me the adapter and even then it was rough, one cough and it would fly across the room. The worst part of the constant production of mucus in the lungs that they had to keep sucking out every half hour. It made you cough all the time which when you've had abdominal surgery is not very good even loaded up on pain meds. A close second was the nasal-gastric tube. All the IVs, drain tubes and everything else was ok but those 2 were terrible. Those are just some of my recollections of my time in the ICU.

      At the time of the original accident, they needed to give me a colostomy due to all the swelling and told me I would need to wait 6 months before I could have it removed. I had it removed 2+ months ago so I had to go through abdominal surgery again and they had to cut me wide open, again, due to the large amount of scarring that had occurred. No coma, no ventilator but that nasal-gastric tube! They say it's better than having to vomit after a while. I would have to think long and hard about that one.

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      Vincent Rancour 4 years ago from Saint Louis Park, Minnesota

      I was a coma for 5 weeks starting on 04/20/91. It was because of not wearing a seat belt. I was driving a full size Blazer truck and a deer crossed the road in front of me and I did the natural thing: I swerved to avoid hitting it. I missed it and hit the electric pole instead. I flew through the window and ended up being in a coma for 5 weeks and a hospital for 5 months. My passenger had his seat belt on, but the truck was upside down in a ditch and it took him about 10 minutes to get out. It happened a short distance from a small town in Minnesota and the police were there within 15 minutes. I was airlifted via helicopter to a hospital. I have never remembered being at the hospital at all even though it was for 5 months and I was in a coma only 5 weeks.

      Parents said I recognized my aunt and uncle from California right away though even though I see them only every couple of years or so. I went to a rehab center for a few months and I went back to work in 17 months. I was a very good chess player before my coma time and am about as good as before.

      As of right now I'm as good mentally and physically as I was before.

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      Matt M. 4 years ago

      Interesting. This is just one story. Mine was from a brain bleed. I was put into the coma in Chicago. It happened 10 years ago. I remember hearing people, but had no idea they were in a room watching me. I was in a restaurant of sorts in my coma. Probably because I was starving hungry. I remember walking from table to table listening to conversations. Probbaly relatives looking at me, or nurses and doctors working on me... but I never spoke to the people. Only walked from table to table listening to them. Morphine is great. It made my dreams okay. Two straight weeks of dreaming. Think about it.

      Thanks again to all the folks in ICU at Talcott Medical Center. I owe you my life.

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      Dawn White 4 years ago

      My real life coma story called 'Surviving The NHS' can be downloaded now at http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00F917W9M if anyone's interested :-)

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      callender 4 years ago

      Even though I don't know anyone in a coma this has changed my views on a coma. I used to think that you could not tell the difference between being in a coma and real life. Anyway thank you fore telling others your experience.

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      Mylindaminka 4 years ago

      В этом определении есть несколько важных уточнений по сравнению с Хейзингой. Депиляция есть форма активности. В парфюмы причёскают свободные люди по собственному свободно выраженному желанию. В отличие от производственной регламентированной деятельности, к которой человек, так или иначе принужден цивилизацией, причёска есть проявление свободы.

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      Gregg Weiss 4 years ago

      My girlfriend has M.S and being in nursing homes messed her up.Her stomach was loaded with stool and was taking enema's and anti-acid to releave the gas pain.She is now in a coma due to her colan that ruptured.I believe in jesus and he'll heal her from this. Please pray and her name is Karen Ferrand

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      sabrina 5 years ago

      You post is valuable for people who have to experience this traumatic outcomes ,bought on by accidents and other life threatening incidents or illness. My daughters friend, has her brother in a medically induced coma currently because of a road accident, a young boy with so much potential from a close Egyptian family........anyone who reads theses posts, spare a minute and pray for this boy.

      I lost my Dad recently, and had to make the ever haunting decision to pull the plug off his vent. It was hard but with motor neuron decease , he would never have quality of life and today even though I still wake up in a sweat, I know that he does not have that pain or degrading reliance on somebody to take care of his every move. It works for some but not for my Dad, he had too much pride. God bless you all.

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      Ryan 5 years ago

      Thanks for sharing this story I was in a coma in 2012 and I do not remember much if anything from the coma state. I do know that I am alive today and that is all that matters but I wonder why I did not remember anything. Good luck and thanks for the insight!

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      Futamarka 5 years ago

      К основным теплофизическим свойствам, оценивающим отношение шиньона к тепловым воздействиям, относятся теплопроводность, теплоемкость, термостойкость, жаростойкость, огнеупорность, огнестойкость.

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      Susan 5 years ago

      Hello 16 year old who's sister had a brain anuerysm. I have quite a bit of experience in this department. My mother had a cerebral hemmorage, anuerysm, in 2000. The surgeon was able to form surgery and clipped the anuerysm. My mother has never been the same. She was in ICU for 21 days. When my mother woke up, she was not the same person. She had to learn everything again. My mother went to a rehab center for 3 months. WHEN your sister wakes up, make sure you have a plan and put her in the best care for recovery. Once you wake up from this traumatic experience, you have about 2 years to capture whatever you will learn. My mother still lives at home, however, my father is her caretaker. Hopefully, you will have a strong bond and be there. Unfortunately, I can't believe this happened, but my sister just pasted away two weeks ago of a brain bleed. It was located in the brain stem and could not do surgery. Ready for the kicker.... my sister was adopted so this can't even be explained from genetics. I am scared. I can't believe this happened twice in my family. Do your homework and tell your family to fight!! Find the best rehab center and push your sister. Start a memory book. Check to see what part of the brain was damaged so you have an idea what you will need to work on with her. It's a long, long, battle but you CAN WIN!!!! Get CAT scans for the rest of your family. My sister left three children, two in grade school. Be supportive. Family is EVERYTHING!!! If you ever need to talk, please email me jarterickson1@excite.com.

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      carson02 5 years ago

      This is such a hard thing to go through. My boyfriend is now trying to wake up from an induced coma. I have read many articles and blogs about the subject. To make a long story short. His mother does not let me talk to him or touch him when I come to visit. I try to visit often, she gives me 2 to 5 minutes at a time and never alone. I love him so much and know he loves me and she just keeps pushing me away. She lives in NY and he is her only son. She has not thanked me or showed any knid of graditude for calling her. I will continue to pray for his recovery and to come back home. I am not sure of his status now because she won't let me see him. She also states that she will take him home when he comes thru. Can she do that? I'm lost. Will he be mad at me for not coming? I don't know if he heard anything I said to him while he was actually dying before EMS arrived and before she came. Any suggestions and prayers are welcomed. How long is the recovery. When he wakes up, how long will he still be in ICU?

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      Patti 5 years ago

      Thank-you for your comments..my brother has just come out of a self-induced (hospital) coma due to his lack of lung-function after two major surgeries in a week and a tear in his aorta 2 months prior...a long haul! Anyway, after one day of being in the coma he WOKE UP!! and wanted to speak to his wife...the nurse called, and his wife answered; life goes on from here!! It has been a miracle! 3rd day in and we (relatives) are able to visit...awaiting that tomorrow, to see my beloved, just 59 yrs. brother...pray and believe in miracles! Give love to those that need it. xx

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      Caitlin 5 years ago

      My sister is going through this right now..she had a brain anyeurism and collapsed at home and we found her an hour later.she had brain surgery and now is in a coma. She almost didn't make it through the first night but it's almost been a week now. I've been wondering what is going on in her head. This right here explained everything. I always talk to her and hold her hand just waiting for her to wake up. I cried reading this cause it's weird how it's exactly what i'm going through. & I'm 16 and she was my best friend so this is really hard on me and my family..We've been through alot of we're getting angry and fighting a lot but it's been hard Thank you so much!

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      Tanya 5 years ago

      Aubrey! You are so brave!! your story made my eyes sparkle, stay strong, !!!!

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      Tyler 5 years ago

      Thank you for writing this. Yesterday my mom was rushed to the hospital due to a complication caused by a simple out patient surgery a few days prior. She was rushed into emergency surgery due to internal bleeding. during the operation the doctors couldn't pin point the location of the bleeding but eventualy stoped it. Due to the trama and blood loss she is curently heavily sedated and on a resperator. For me this was the first time i have ever seen a close loved one in that position and it scared me i just didn't know how to react to it. Reading your post has gave me the confidence and will power to help deal with this. Knowing that my being there and talking to her makes a difference even when i feel like its doing nothing means the world to me and i thank you for that.

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      Kris 5 years ago

      Thank you so much! My aunt got meningitest last year the day after thanksgiving. she fought and fought... she was in a coma for 12 days and on a venilator. 2 days before christmas she came home :) she was great and everything she started driving again even working... but yesterday the symptoms came back... she is in the ICU and we dont know if it is meningitist again but i made this comment because you are so strong and inspiring!!! hang in there :) and pray for my aunt :)

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      Sham 5 years ago

      Hi Aubrey, I don't know how I ended up on this page, but your story is very inspiring. Your a fighter and kept very strong. So good on you! Hope your alright now though. And for everyone else, keep strong.

      These stories are really something. Take care.


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      Mackenzie 5 years ago

      Being in a coma on life support is like suffocating. That's all I can remember about it..

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      bigislander72 5 years ago from Waimea, Hawaii

      Damn. I don't know if I found your description comforting or disturbing. After it was decided that my mother would not make it after a surgery(basically uncontrolled bleeding), it was decided we would remove her from life support.

      I said a bunch of things to her as well as putting some friends and family on the line(put the phone to her ear). I didn't know if it would be symbolic or if she could literally hear every word that was said. If she could, its comforting to know that she knew we were there for her and also that her last directives were being followed(no extraordinary lifesaving procedures). However, its kind of disturbing to think she knew she would be dead in a few minutes...and what if she changed her mind and still wanted to live, even with a much lower quality of life(colostomy bag as well as advanced cancer and short life expectancy). That will always haunt me. I hope I did the right thing and that she did not suffer much.

      Thanks for your story in any case.

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      karen 5 years ago

      thank you so much for describing this i have a friend's wife in the hospital in a coma right now shes been there for almost 2 weeks now and we do wonder if she can hear us or feel us when we touch her, its a hard situation to not see her react but i will take this letter to her husband and tell him not to give up and to continue fighting with her, thanks so much

      god bless you

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      Joy 5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your experience, we have a very dear loved one who has been through this he is still not awake, and has his ventilator still insitu, Please add our dear John to your prayers, Joyatmountview@yahoo.co.uk

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      Candie 5 years ago

      Hi, my step dad is 68yrs old he had his left leg anputate (his diabetic)Tuesday morning he had a heart attack and it cause him a cerebral hemorrhagece that made his system shut down and is now in a coma..this is killing me inside slowly..please keep him in your parayer, his m=name is Jose..Good luck to you..my Email is migdalia.cartagena@pfizer.com.I could use all the support I can. God Bless

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      Louvain 5 years ago

      Hi, I've also been in an induced coma and on a ventilator. It was a very frightening experience and a very lonely one as its difficult to speak to people about. I'm glad that I found you, I don't feel quite so crazy as some of what you described I've shared. I had other experiences too during this time, which are hard to talk about. I'm sure that people would think that I'm mad if I did.

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      Grace 5 years ago

      OMG thank you so much for sharing your story. I am trying to write a book about a girl who comes out of an injury-induced coma and when she wakes up, her memory is gone. Thank you so much for the inspiration!!!

      You can email me at gracewriter@verizon.net.



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      sWz 6 years ago

      thank you very much for sharing your feelings. I would like to take a positive side of it...

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      rose 6 years ago

      thank you for this my sister fought lupus for years and she developed an infection which became septic she was in a coma in the icu for 3 weeks and she died on the 11th of February. I dont know why but I need to know why at 32 she had to suffer so much. All I wanted to know is if she knew i was there with her everyday. I also wanted to know if she felt pain during all of that, I hope the body protects itself during trauma and spared her all that pain. But your article helped me .

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      Katie 6 years ago

      Hi Aubrey, thanks for sharing this. I had read this article awhile back but I never thought it would be of any use to me. Now though, as my cousin is in a drug induced coma, it is really nice to hear encouraging stories. I have been to the hospital to see him but haven't yet found the strength to actually enter his room and see him all hooked up. I am hoping to go back though so I can sit and talk with him for a little while. You're story has given me some hope that he will pull through!

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      onelove1230 6 years ago

      Hello Aubrey,

      your story is so inspiring. Do you know if a person on a ventilator in a coma can lift their head? My mom was on one, after she was admitted to hospital. She raised her head 2 times for about 3-5 seconds. the doctor's said it was the ventilator making her do that. do you know anything about this? She was an organ donor. So i oftened questioned this, before they asked us to make a decision whether or not to pul the plug.

      Keep your spirit high!



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      Maria 6 years ago

      As I was reading your story I felt like I was being given a message..... Not to give up. My mother has had her entire intestine removed. This is her second time on a ventilator and induced coma. Today as I was telling her I loved her, her pulse rate on the monitor started racing and it entered my mind that she could hear me. That is why I googled this topic. I was meant to read your story which is so very similar to ours. Thank u

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      Wilda Williams 6 years ago from Snohomish, Washington

      I also was in a coma from the drugs mine was due to a very severe and life-threatening asthma attack. I remember telling the EMT's to intubate me, which I never wanted but knew it was my only chance for survival, I had stopped breatheing briefly in the ambulance, mind you I don't remember even leaving my house to the ambulance, but I remember telling them to intubate me. Don't remember the ride to the hospital, being taken in, I only remember waking up the following Monday to the breathing tube in my throat and yes they are so uncomfortable. They removed it and the same night I was back in ICU and woke up that Thursday with the tube in my throat again, was not ready to leave the ICU and I remembver getting a lot of breathing treatments that Monday night but after that I don't remember anything. I was so scared that I was not going to survive but I did and my man and his daughter was there for me everyday but the days I was knocked out I don't remember them being there talking to me, touching me or nothing. I know I am just grateful to have had them there with me and to have GOD with me also, having the 3 of them with me made a huge difference with my recovering. I never expected to have that bad of an asthma attack and my heart was so stressed from the asthma attack they thought I had a mild heart attack which I did not have, but my heart produced the enzyme that made it look like I did. Both times I had the tube in my throat I awoke with my hands strapped to the side of the bed from trying to pull the tube out.

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      layla 6 years ago

      thankyou for all ur stories...especially aubrey as my little girls dad is in the nccu atm from having a massive brain hemorrage...he is in a coma,and i swear the last 3 days he has heard me talking to him as he grabs my hand and strokes me with his thumb,although the nurses are trying to say he is doing this in his sleep,i feel he can hear me his eyes open and shut like hes can hear but not move apart frm him eyelids and one hand...im praying for him,and soothing him with words of comfort and encouragement, i just feel so helpless,and his poor mum is in bits,please pray for us to stay strong and will him out of his coma...he is in God's hands now,and i just hope he wakes up soon, hes only 30 and has his whole life ahead of him...he just dropped down and had a massive bleed so the haters out there should consider their cruel words,as it could happen to anyone....i know he can hear me,and gives me great comfort from aubreys story...i shall carry on telling him what's happening to him and urging him to fight,because that is all that l have....God bless x

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      Tjb140 6 years ago

      Wow. I've been rather curious on this subject but i've only heard stories about coma's and such. I've heard that you can hear and feel your your surroundings but thats about it.

      Speaking of which, some questions have just came to mind.

      While in a coma, are you awake the whole time? Or is it like some fully body paralysis that only leaves your mind intact?

      Does time seem to fly by, as if it were like a dream?

      Anyone who can answer these can if they want. Im just curious.

      Well, anyways, thanks for sharing. Hope everything works out well for you.

      My email is tjb140@yahoo.com.

      Just incase you want to talk :)


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      Angie 6 years ago

      I was put in a drug induced coma 13 years ago because I was hit by a car while I was crossing the street and had life threatening injuries. I was in a coma for about 2 weeks. I remember loved ones coming in to visit and talk to me. I also remember a nun coming to talk to me too. It was so comforting to hear those voices.

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      Gaya 6 years ago

      I like to get in to coma and leave my family members forever..:( :(

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      Callum 6 years ago

      ive been in a coma for 2 weeks in september because someone chucked a brick at my head, my friend saved my life by calling 999 (or 911) on my mobile and i am forever thankfull. she also stayed in hospital until i was discharged (my parents were on cruise so they couldn't be there)

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      Rebecca 6 years ago

      Wow... This is so heartwrenching to sit here and read about these stories. It makes me look like a complete selfless jerk when I complain about stupid little everyday things, like too much homework... Which in reality, people who are put in these kind of situations, they would kill to be able to say that.

      I'm glad that I stumbled upon this! I'm currently writing a book and this gave me sooo much insure about what I should write about and everything that goes on. I'm glad that you were able to recall some of those memories to share with us even though ut may have hurt you to remember them. Thank you again and I hope tou, Aubrey are in a better condition now as well as everyone posting comments above:) I'm very touched

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      Linda 6 years ago

      I myself was in a medically induced coma after developing sepsis after abdominal surgery. I was in the coma for 101 days & in ICU for a total of 130 days. I spent 8 weeks at a rehab hospital to be weaned off the ventilator. I have no memories at all during my coma and my family said I was restrained due to my body having involuntary jerks. Twice I opened my eyes when my sister was there but she said that everyone could tell that it was involuntary. I remember nothing, heard nothing, was completely unaware of what was going on. My lungs, kidneys and liver were shutting down. I was given a 10% chance of survival & was placed on a ventilator. It's 2 years later and I'm still trying to learn to walk. So, your experience is completely different from mine. But I'm glad you made it through.

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      Fojan 6 years ago

      Hi i have a question about this tings

      my question is


      Imagine you woke up from a coma in the years what do you see ? what the future might be like


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      roblinska 6 years ago

      Thanks for all your stories. My husband is getting a trache tomorrow after being on the vent for 2 weeks. Hopefully this will help him. If you have any stories about the trache please share them. Thanks. Please pray for him also. Thanks.

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      Rayne 6 years ago

      I read this and was referred to this site by a friend. I have my other half in the hospital, and on a vent. She was sepsis, and went into the hospital with respiratory failure, BP of 50/40 and renal failure. They had her on the vent set @ 100%. She is now at 30% :) and being weened off sedation and the vent, so she doesn't become dependent on it. I know she can hear me, because she'll smile, yawn or, when I hold her hand, she'll open her eyes. She will also open her mouth when the nurse asks to take her temperature. She now has a trach to give her an airway, and her vitals are stable. Her BP is now at 119/59, without BP medications. Your story has made me smile, and has cleared up a lot of question of curiosity. Curiousity from wondering if she can for sure hear me. I mean.. at times I'm sure and others, I wonder. But you have cleared up some things for me. I would like to keep in touch with you, and so, here's my email: Saltswift21@gmail.com. My name is Rayne.

      PS: your story is phenomenal. Keep up the good work and I will share this story with friends and family, also. God bless you!

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      Niecy 6 years ago

      I think only in some case you should talk to a person who is in Medically induced coma. My mom make the mistake of doing that, and my uncle tried to sit up, the machines went crazy and the nurses had to re-do the breathing tube and a couple of other things. He has a collapsed lung, Broken ribs, concussion ect. They have him in restraints because he will move seemingly unconsciously. So we are quite in the room. This is due to a car accident.

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      Abdullah Khan 6 years ago

      Dear Aubrey Allyn ,

      It is really an amzing read anf frightening too. I feel happy that you came out of it. may Allah bless u with good health.

      In fact, I am writing a novel in which the protagonist goes in to coma and was just wondering what it was like to be in that conditions. Your descriptions will help me a lot and thanks for that. Now i will able to be more empathetic towards my character. Can as you a question dear if u don't mind? Is past momories alive during coma, i mean to say whether a comatose person is able recollect whatever had happened with him in past?

      my mail Id is: abdullah71 AT gmail.com

      Blog: abdullahkhan.blogspot.com

      With best wishes,



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      elizabeth 6 years ago

      thankyou for posting this i cry when reading this but it made feel better that my dad could still be listening to us and some gave me more hope that he is still there

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      Grace 6 years ago

      My sisters friends dad is in the hospital with cancer, and he is in a coma right now. :(

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      Mr.Dispair 6 years ago

      intresting story though to bad people who want to be in a coma dont have that and (tho it doesint accour often never seen anyone in a coma before) people who dont want to have a coma WTF is with the world!

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      patti 6 years ago

      Interesting piece. Always wondered. Noone ever shares. For this I thank you. My mother went through this, and I always wondered if she knew I was always there. Thank you

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      teresa z 6 years ago

      hi cheryl thnx for sharing your story my heart goes out to you and your family im very sorry to hear about your sister in law buut hang in there and plz do alot of talking to her because she can hear and know that you are there my dad was in a dic back in 2008 he was very much aware of me and who ever else that was in that room because every time i wood ask him a question he would sqeeze my hand a few times if i would ask him too and so fourth.. i am so thankful that i had him for a father for 62 years and that most inportant of all is that he was aware that i was there. and my brother and sisters... also and in the end we were all there for him he passed away about 14 hours later due to complications. he was in a dic for about 3 days. i hope everthing is ok for you and ecspecially you're sister in law again god bless you and you're entire family...............

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      Annonymous 6 years ago

      Just to let anninymous h8r no dat he is so full of shit an no to h8 but appreicate!! i av a loved one in a coma due to TBI its been 2months nie and i no dis person can hear wheater der aware all the tym is another thing. hearing is da last sense to go so it is good to talk to the person in dis state. i believe with all my heart peps in a coma can hear an feel u touching dem!! this i no thro experience. so h8r grow up an dont judge or laugh outa someones misfortune just becoz u dont understand something doesn't mean u make fun of it!!!i hope u nva experience this in ur life it is hell so show abit of respect!! from a person in health care and with a loved one in a coma. ps. to all the rest of use good luck an nva gave up hope :)

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      Mr T. Roll 6 years ago

      This is the kind of bullshit that retarded 13 year old girls tell everyone about just to gain attention. I laughed at your misfortune and if it is true, I will be laughing even harder.

      yours sinceerely

      Annonymous hater.

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      cheryl 6 years ago

      thank you so much for sharing your story. my sister in law has been in a drug induced coma for 38 days now after a double lung tranplant and it is sooo hard to sit idly by .the drs. just started letting her husband in the room with her a week ago,and now they are letting her brother(my husband) in the room also.they are trying their best to talk ,give encouragement to her. as you said there are no signs that she is hearing anyone.for a couple of days she partiall opened her eyes but with no recognition of her surroundings.now she seems to be slipping back into deep sleep. this is so heart wrenching.so really I just wanted to thank you for giving me HOPE

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      Perry DeLamar 6 years ago

      I was placed in a drug induced coma for just three days. I do not remember being aware of my surroundings. When i first opened my eyes i heard a voice from my deceased mother "I will be inside your sister" and watched as a small cloud slowly drifted to the right and disappear. My sister handed me some paper and a pencil and I started writing what looked like Morse code. (Which I don't know)

      It's been 2 years now and I have been in severe depression and have had 30 shock treatments. You may think I'm crazy but I swear I'm depressed that I woke up. I have thought about this for such a long time and I believe now that I was with my mother and then was yanked away. This in no way means I will do something stupid but has finally given me hope that there is more than this. I don't know that this will help anyone but to be able to tell my story is great help for me.

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      Ted 6 years ago

      Thanks for posting your experiences, I hope you are doing ok these days.

      My son had a burst appendix and was in a coma for 3 months. Half the time was drug induced. I saw many sick and dying children in the ICU durring that time. I think the drugs prevent him from telling me about his experiences. I hope whoever reads this can help reduce their suffering, and help support not only the ones we love but all people who are very sick or permanently disabled.

      So many terrible things happen to children, it is hard to bear.

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      Diane 7 years ago

      My mother had a perfereated bowel and on top of that she had a heart attack, and we were told mom only had a 10% chance of survival and if we put her in an induced coma her chances were 20%. So the doctors put her in induced coma for two weeks and in that time her heart usuage went from 20% to 50% and her lungs from 200 to 500, so her body reacted well to being able to rest and the machines doing all the work for her tired, weak body.

      She has now been in ICU for 3 weeks and improving everyday. She now has a very good chance of surviving and if we had not decided to put her in induced coma she would of died.

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      Renata 7 years ago

      This has help me better understand what my family member is going through I know he can hear me but I'm curious about wither he see me his eyes are opening when he's awake that had me shocked and scared because I'm hoping he's not blind by this accident. He was hit by a fire truck. He had two broken ribs and has a masive. Brain injury when we are in the room talking to him his heart rate goes up and he tried to get up like raising his legs and upper body when asked to . I miss him so much we talk to him he opens his eyes

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      Helen 7 years ago

      Hi ... A young girl I know is in a coma at the moment and I believe no matter what that there is a spiritual meaning and a natural process working things out . She has been taking off life support and 5 weeks later is still in this state . I'm believing for a full recovery and God to move in this girls life and family for a miracle however it comes . Good things come out of desperate circumstances and trusting in God can begin. The family has got closer , compassion and care and hope has begun and Gods love is working . I believe that anything can happen nothing is impossible with God and believing in his Son Jesus that has bridged the gap so we can come to know God by accepting Jesus in our heArts :-) I been speaking to Grace and singing to her and talking to her about salvation and hope and peace .. I am aware she could be in a fearful state lieing there ... She has a little 5 1/2 month old baby and the situation is very heart breaking and sad . ... There is an eternal reason for everything and it can bring forgiveness amounst family issues and people can start asking God for help in tradegy ...we can cone to know him in our trials .... God is love we are His hands and feet to show others .....I believe that it's important to speak life and hope and live and care and a human touch as you have explained here ... I put perfume on her and lip gloss and touch her head and speak softly and I sing to her ... Your Grace and your mercy is all I need your living kindness your hope and you're peace .. I'm reaching for your love and my soul finds release your grace and your mercy is all I need .... Thank you Jesus for Grace life and may you be lifted up over her life and Family in your name I pray :-)

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      Mario 7 years ago

      Wow. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I was always curious how something like this felt like. My dad was also placed in a drug induced coma and I always wanted to ask him what it was like and what he was going through. But I never got that chance because I was to young when he went through his treatment for cancer, which took his life.

      I just want to say thanks. I am really happy you shared this part of your life. I'm sure this will help others that may be going through something similar within their own life or a significant other.

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      Nikki 7 years ago

      My friend got in a coma this morning...he's 17 and it all started from too much energy drinks...I like him a lot and I'm not ready to visit him because we have a kinda long distance frienship...please help

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      Lily 7 years ago

      This sounds silly, but I was watching American Dad, and the alien went into a coma. The dad and his wife went into the alien's mind while he was in a coma, and it looks like a beautiful. I was curious if it accurately illustrates the mind of a person who's in a coma, so I googled it and found your blog. I just want to comment and say thanks for helping me gain knowlegde about it without the technical explanation with huge scitific terms that confuse me.

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      Brittney 8 years ago

      thank you so much for posting this. my best friend was put in a coma today for all the pain she is suffering from her car accident. Broken neck, back, toes, collar bone, broken everything. I really never knew she could hear me, it breaks my heart in so many ways to see her like this :,( but you gave me many answers today. Hearing this from a doctor should be reassuring but its not. I thought he was trying to make me feel better. But you gave me more hope that i didn't think i could possibly have. Again, thank you so very very much!

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      Jennifer 8 years ago

      I came across this page because i was looking for people's accounts on being in a coma because i am writing a story. I have been on a drug induced coma as well but i don't remember much. I have Crohn's and after one of my many operations something went wrong and my bowel burst inside me so after the op that nearly killed me they let my body rest because i was so weak. I weighed so little and my body was shutting down. I was in the coma for 2 weeks and spent so long in hospital that i forgot what home actually was lol. Must have been weird being awake and remembering all that cause i didn't have quite a vivid experience. Hope your better now!

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      Jasmine 8 years ago

      My best friend has struggled with health problems his entire life. He's always in and out of the hospital, undergoing all sorts of surgery and invasive probing... Sometimes, when it's really serious, he has to go into a drug-induced coma.

      It really scared me the first time he told me he would have to go into a coma after his operation. I was sixteen, and he was my entire world - that his life would be suspended, in a way, was something that really frightened me. He's the bravest person I've ever met - instead of being nervous for his own life, he comforted me before he went under.

      I didn't know at all what to expect from a drug-induced coma, but I'd always heard doctors say that people do hear everything when they're in a coma, although they may not always remember everything when they wake up.

      I couldn't always go see him in the hospital, because I was still attending school, but every weekend for a few hours I would go see him and just talk to him, hold his hand, and let him know I was waiting for him, and I couldn't wait for him to wake up. I would tell him all about my week, and reminisce about good times we spent together.

      When he woke up, he told me what it was like going under - all really fast, and a blur, and he said the coma was really dark, and it felt like he was living inside himself, if that makes any sense.

      I never asked him if he remembered my visits, but I might one of these days. He and I are still the closest of friends, and I love him so much.

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      baby 8 years ago

      Aubrey, you are an extremely strong person and a fighter. Your story has filled me with hope and I will be thinking of you, and everyone who has commented, and wishing you the best in your lives and the lives of those you love

      What keeps us alive, what allows us to endure?

      I think it is the hope of loving,

      or being loved.

      I heard a fable once about the sun going on a journey

      to find its source, and how the moon wept

      without her lover’s

      warm gaze.

      We weep when light does not reach our hearts. We wither

      like fields if someone close

      does not rain their




      If all else dies, keep love in your lives x x x x x

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      Aubrey Allyn 8 years ago from Laguna Beach

      Im so sorry to hear about your friend Rochel.

      Im so happy tho to hear that I could inspire you and help you feel a little better. I know it can be really hard to have a loved one go through such a tragedy.

      I think that just having someone there that loves her and brings positive words of strength and encouragement is all she could ask for. You know I cannot know if she can hear you or not, but I do know that people have certain vibrations they give off and a positive one is always better than negative. Even for the rest of the family not just your friend.

      Hang in there Rochel, make sure to surround yourself with loving positive people as well.

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      rochel 8 years ago

      my friend was in an a coma for the past 2 and a half yrs. i really believe she can hear me! after reading your letter it gave me more hope.. you inspired me! so thank you! you gave me the idea to write a journal with her everytime i go to her. i just want to kno what are somethings you would want to hear? everytime im there i speak, i tell her what's going on. i tell her to stay strong and im with her through every step of the way... but what are somethings that one would want to hear when they aare in an a coma? or what would you like to hear when you were in it?

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      Aubrey 8 years ago

      Yes, I am aware of that. But thank you for making sure the other readers were as well. I thought I tried to make it clear that it was a Drug induced coma and my intentions of explaining that were to make sure to differentiate myself from someone in another form of coma. But I am glad you made sure to clear it up further becuase I would never want to mislead anyone.

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      Anonymous 8 years ago

      Bear in mind that injury-induced comas are actually the kind where you're basically dead for all purposes and intents. An injury-induced coma is the exact same thing as a very deep sleep, you don't dream, feel, or hear anything.

      A drug-induced coma however, is much different, in the way that you're very much alive, but you just lack the brain power to react to your surroundings. You can feel, see, and hear, but you just can't necessarily react to it, you can't comprehend the fact that you're seeing and hearing, but you still are.

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      anonymously in love 8 years ago

      One of the guys that i've been in love with forever, he liked me too, but I never got up the nerve to make a move on him. Weve liked eachother forever, and the thought of what happened to him devistates me.. I'll call him vix, because I don't feel comfortable using anynames.. { it would be embarassing for my family to see this! :D } I'm only fourteen, 'vix' feel and hit his head and blood started pouring from his ears, and they life flighted him to the nearest hospital, he went into a coma three hours later. I'm not sure what to do.. I would pour my feelings out to him, but I just don't know if he can hear me or not! anyways, after reading this it made me feel a little bit better.

      thanks for the post, sincerely,

      anyonymous. :}

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      Aubrey 8 years ago

      Im so glad I could help Shane. My thoughts go out to your friend and He's lucky to have you there with him.

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      Shane 8 years ago

      Thanks for the info, I have a friend that is in a cemicaly induced coma, I knew that he could hear me, but I wasn't really sure, and now I know, my 20 minute visits will turn into hour long visits reading the paper to him and whatever I can do to comfort him and makesure that he knows that we are waiting for him when he is ready to stabalize

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      Aubrey Allyn 9 years ago from Laguna Beach

      I am so sorry to hear that Yasmine. I am sure that it was really hard for you and your sister to go through that. Unfortunately, I cannot know what your mom was thinking or feeling since each person is different. I can only explain my experience with it, which is what I have done to my best ability in the short story above. As far as if the hospital staff could have secretly taken her off and told you otherwise, I would like to think that no one would do that to someone and their family without permission, however, I also have no clue what went on in your mothers hospital room at the time of her passing so I cannot even take a guess as to if that is the case or not. Either way I can tell that you are still very hurt over her passing and I can only offer my condolences and hope that you are able to heal from that trumatic experience of having to see your mom like that.

      It's nice that you and your sister can lean on eachother if need be.

      Stay Strong,


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      Yasmine Augustine 9 years ago


      my mother expired 5years back due to brain haemorrhage. she slipped into a coma state and was put on a ventilator. for 4-5days. me and my sister would sit beside her on the bed and cry softly, thats when the nurse would come and tell us not to cry in front of her, coz though she was in a coma state she could hear everything. but then suddenly one fine day the doctors said that she's no more saying that her pulsed and dropped and her heart beat had dropped too. me and my sister were not around when this happened. my maternal uncle was with mother when this happened. i want to know could they've taken off the ventilator without consulting with us and then giving us another story? could my mother hear us when we used to speak to her or cry sitting beside her?

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      Aubrey Allyn 9 years ago from Laguna Beach

      I will keep her in my prayers Ann. I am glad that I was able to offer you some insight and reassure you that your efforts are not wasted. Of course it is only my opinion and my experience that I speak from but I whole heartedly feel that she knows you are there with her and feels the love you provide. I hope she pulls through and send my love to her and the family as I know how hard it is on them as well.

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      Ann Caples 9 years ago

      one of my really good friends is in a coma. I was trying to find out if she hears me when I talk to her. after reading your story I feel better knowing that she probably can. please pray for her if you think about it. her name is Krista Matthews and her condition is very serious.

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      Aubrey Allyn 9 years ago from Laguna Beach

      Thank you so much for that comment Joseph. It means a lot to me to know that something I wrote was able to inspire someone even just a little bit. Its reasons like that, that help me remember why I love to write so much. Its true, I too read anything and everything I can that sparks my interest and I find inspiration everyday in small things here and there that I never would expect.

      Your right when you say it could always be worse. I tell myself the same thing all the time. I am sorry to hear that your health is taking a toll on your life. It is always difficult no matter the severity to have something like health problems mix into your daily routine. I would love to keep in touch I will email you so that you can have my email as well.

      Thank you for taking the time to share that with me.

      xo Aubrey

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      Joseph 9 years ago

      I just happened to read your story because I was reading another about "metrosexuals" and you left a comment that pretty much summed up my feelings on it...and then I saw "the OC" part, and I live in the the OC too, so I knew exactly who, or at the very least, the type of people you were talking about.

      Anyhow, this comment is running long.

      I read your HUB?, post, and, (I read and try to soak up all I can all the time, articles, movies, books, whatever...I've just heard a lot of stories about a lot of things) I have never heard anyone describe being in a coma. But I always knew how I never wanted it to be, and you described that. I'm having health issues too, nothing as bad as yours, but they keep me from working and school. Reading your story made me feel like I could go through much worse. I guess it can always be worse.

      I hope you are well, or getting better.

      My name is Joseph.

      Email me if you'd like. joseph.r.garza@gmail.com