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Twelve Ways to Stop Gambling Addiction Forever

Updated on April 19, 2017
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I am a professional coach and author in the field of gambling addiction, which I've worked in for over 10 years.

Gambling addiction is brutal and highly destructive. It can lead to dire consequences that run the gamut from bankruptcy, job loss, depression, anxiety, loss of friends and family, and even suicide. It is so important for the addict to stop gambling sooner rather than later.

This addiction does not discriminate. If the propensity is there, and the gambler crosses over that invisible line into problem gambling, addiction can occur in anyone’s life. It does not matter whether the person is rich or poor, educated or uneducated. An addiction like this can send people to jail, cause major social and occupational problems, mental instability, and financial devastation that can last for years.

Studies show that problem gamblers are more likely to commit suicide than all other types of addicts combined.

It is important to get help as soon as possible. It isn’t easy to quit gambling, but there are ways you can help yourself before you get to the point of no return. Here are twelve strategies to use to stop gambling and reclaim your life!

Remember the feeling when you lose a lot of money at the casino, online, or through sports betting. Allow yourself to feel that despondency when you are having thoughts about gambling again.

Twelve Tips to Help You Quit Gambling Forever

1. Take a Short Break

When you wake up, make a decision that you will not gamble, just for this one day. If you have to do this an hour at a time, that is okay. Some might have to work one minute at a time, which is fine too, as long as you promise yourself that you will not gamble, and you keep the promise. Schedule your day in a very structured way so you do not have a lot of free time. Forbid yourself from entering a casino, downloading online gaming apps, or visiting gaming websites.

2. Find a Replacement Activity

Find something to replace your gambling. Exercise, go shopping, go out with friends, or do some cooking. You can also rent a movie, listen to some music, or do some reading — do whatever it takes to keep yourself busy. You could pick up a new, exciting hobby, like bike racing or climbing or welding.

Your goal is to stop gambling, and it is not easy when you get such a high from it. Finding replacements, however, can help. Try and see how it goes.

3. Remember How Bad It Feels to Lose

Remember the feeling when you lose a lot of money at the casino, online, or through sports betting. Allow yourself to feel that despondency when you are having thoughts about gambling again. You may find that you are less likely to go out and place a bet. I have done this before, and must admit that these feelings have stopped me from taking that ride to the casino. This hasn't worked every time, but many times this tool has helped.

4. Educate Yourself About Gambling Addiction

Read as much as you can about gambling addiction. Educate yourself, especially about your particular type of gambling. Find out what type of gambler you are and whether you have a gambling problem and have crossed over this invisible line. Are you an escape or an action gambler? Find out what some of your triggers are, as this can help a lot. When you read about gambling addiction, especially the power that it can have on your psyche, you may think twice about going out and placing a bet.

The resources at the end of this article may be of some help to you.

5. Find Self-Help Materials

Seek help. Look for books or courses. Self-hypnosis for gambling problems can also be helpful. Consider joining an online gambling addiction forum. Even if you do not join, reading other people's stories may help you realize that you are not alone. It is crucial that you realize that you are not the only person with this problem. Many share your plight and are looking for answers and support from other gamblers.

Again, there are resources at the bottom of this article that may be of some help to you.

6. Find a Support Group

Attend a Gamblers Anonymous meeting for group support. If you do not want to do a 12-Step program, there is an online program called Smart Recovery. Having support from other gamblers who also want to quit is an important piece of your recovery. Just talking about gambling with other people who understand what you're going through can be really helpful.

7. Hand Over Control of Your Money

Ask a close family member to handle your money. If you do not have money on your person, you will be less apt to impulsively gamble money away. It will be hard, but it is an important step in your recovery. Also, do not allow yourself access to ATM or credit cards. Just keep a small amount of cash with you, so you cannot spend the money gambling.

8. List the Cons of Gambling and the Pros of Quitting

Make a list about how your gambling problem has affected your life in a negative way. Write as much as you can. Make the list on the left side of a sheet of paper so you have room on the right side. On the right side, write about how your life will change for the better when you stop gambling.

9. Make a Financial Plan

Talk to a debt counselor about your gambling debts. Ask for advice about how to relieve financial pressure and solve financial problems caused by your gambling. The financial stress that you have from gambling addiction debts can drive you back to gambling if not addressed. Financial problems are the biggest consequence of gambling, and help is available. Be sure to use a non-profit debt assistance agency, and not one that is for-profit.

10. Get a Good Counselor

See a counselor that specializes in addictions, especially gambling, and talk to this person about your problem. If your addiction is severe, you will need as much support as you can get to stop gambling now.

11. Get Help for Underlying Mood Disorders

Many people with a gambling problem also suffer from depression, anxiety, stress, or other substance abuse issues. These can both trigger compulsive gambling as well as make it worse.

12. Get in the Right Environment

Surround yourself with people that you trust who want to see you recover and avoid any kind of environment where you might be tempted to gamble, which could be anything from a casino, to being at home alone with your smartphone. Delete gambling apps from your phone and tell casinos that you have a problem and that you want them to block you from entering.

Some Final Thoughts

Gambling is a dangerous addictions because of the related risk of suicide. Find help now and make a plan to begin quitting. Take it one day, or hour, at a time and keep in mind how great you will feel when you have come clean and stopped gambling with your life.

More Information About Problem Gambling

Do You Have a Problem With Gambling?

There are many terms that are used to describe gambling problems, including "problem," "at risk," "compulsive," "disordered," and "pathological."1

The American Psychiatric Association uses the term "gambling disorder," in the 5th edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders to describe the most severe form of gambling problems. Keep in mind, however, that individual experiences with gambling can differ wildly from person to person.

According to the Manual, a gambling disorder is characterized by:

  • A preoccupation with gambling
  • The perceived inability to cut back or control one's gambling
  • Irritability or restlessness when one tries to cut back or stop gambling
  • Risking more money to reach the same levels of excitement as before
  • Gambling to escape problems or depression
  • "Chasing" gambling losses with more gambling to try to make up for them
  • Deceiving family and friends with regard to gambling habits
  • Risking or losing jobs or relationships because of gambling
  • Relying on others for the financial needs caused by gambling

If you're experiencing any or all of the above to any degree, it's likely that you don't have a normal relationship with gambling. You don't need to be completely out of control in order to have a problem with gambling.2 In fact, problem gambling is any kind of behavior that disrupts your life, regardless of how much you gamble or how much money is at stake.

Gambling addiction is frequently seen alongside other forms of psychiatric disorders, such as depression and anxiety.3 It is also seen frequently alongside other kinds of addictions.4

Just because you have a problem with gambling does not mean you are a weak-willed, irresponsible person. Strong-willed or responsible people are just as likely to develop a gambling disorder as anyone else.

A Note on Recovery

The path to recovery differs for each individual, and there is no consensus in the scientific community regarding the best treatment for addiction. Some people recover spontaneously, some do it alone or one-on-one with a therapist, others in group settings or a combination of the two.5 Half of all addictions end by age 30,6 but only 1 in 10 of the 23.5 million teenagers addicted to alcohol and drugs seek treatment, and when they do, it's often in places that do not use evidence-based care.

This is just to say that addiction treatment is a complex issue. In your journey, don't be afraid to try many options for treatment, even ones that might seem contradictory. Relapse is likely, but so is regaining a life without addiction.

Some of the tools people have used include:

  • Cognitive behavioral therapy
  • Group therapy
  • Harm-reduction techniques
  • In-patient treatment programs
  • Marriage and credit counseling

If you need to reach out to someone, you can call:

HelpGuide's list of resources (at the bottom of the article that the link sends you to) is very extensive — It's a good place to start.

Sources and Resources

1. "What is problem gambling or gambling disorder?" 2016. National Center for Responsible Gaming. Accessed April 12, 2017.

The website for the National Center for Responsible Gaming, which has information for researchers about grants they can apply for, research projects funded by the NCRG, and some resources for public education about gambling.

2. Segal, Jeanne Ph.D., Melinda Smith, M.A., and Lawrence Robinson. "Gambling Addiction and Problem Gambling." April 2017. HelpGuide. Accessed April 12, 2017.

A comprehensive resource to compulsive gambling, with many resources for people to begin their recovery journey including worksheets, websites, and support groups, as well as step-by-step guidelines and advice for both compulsive gamblers as well as the people who love them.

3. Martin, Ryan J., Stuart Usdan, Jennifer Cremeens, Karen Vail-Smith. "Disordered gambling and co-morbidity of psychiatric disorders among college students: An examination of problem drinking, anxiety and depression." February 21, 2013. Journal of Gambling Studies. Accessed April 12, 2017.

A scholarly article studying the relationship between gambling and other mood and substance disorders.

4. Nordqvist, Christian. "Gambling Addiction: How Is Gambling Bad for You?" August 19, 2015. Medical News Today. Accessed April 12, 2017.

An article about gambling addiction, its triggers, and treatment for it.

5. Brody, Jane E. "Effective Addiction Treatment." February 4, 2013. New York Times: Well Blog. Accessed April 12, 2017.

A blog post on the current state of addiction treatment in the United States, on the myths that perpetuate it, and on how to choose a treatment program.

6. Szalavitz, Maia. "Can You Get Over an Addiction?" June 25, 2016. New York Times: Opinion. Accessed April 12, 2017.

An article from someone who was formerly addicted to cocaine and heroin about the changing perception of addiction in the United States and new methods for treatment.

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      Inrecovery69 47 hours ago

      Good job BigFatDad! It shows how sharing via this site can help people stay on course and offer encouragement. Keep it up. I haven't yielded yet and am currently looking at my credit file to see how my credit score is improving. And it us definitely improving! I am aiming to get on the property ladder within the next 9 months - something that would be impossible if I was gambling. The future is so much brighter when gambling is out of the picture. God speed.

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      goldbar7s 5 days ago

      Dontgiveup, the best of luck to you!!!

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      BigFatDad 6 days ago

      Day 8 for me! It ain't easy, but it is worth it. I scheduled my customer visits this past week, in a manner that kept me out of the casinos. I actually thought about driving 4-1/2 hours the one night, to gamble, but called my daughter instead. I didn't tell her the real reason for calling, but just talking to her gave me the inspiration I needed to not gamble. A few other times I was tempted, I read through the comments below, and decided against it. Thanks for the comments, everyone! Stay the ccourse!

      1 minute, 1 hour, 1 day at a time....

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      Mukeshrao 7 days ago

      Hi guys I'm mukesh and I'm just 20 this year and going to reach 21 soon. I started gambling on the age of 18 and until today I'm gambling. I used to be a non gambler last time but since I were influenced by my friends I made it as habit. Every time I had money and the first thing I do is going to the gambling shop. I lose all of the money. Sometimes all of my salary about 2000 In 2-3 hours. I felt like what the shit I'm doing every I have money. I rarely spend money for myself cause I'm totally addicted on gambling. When I can't take it anymore, I came to look up for ways to lose this addiction and came up this website. Most of the information are good and from now on I'm going to stop gambling. I'm quite confident after came up these informations and the response of others. Thanks guys. I love u all.

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      Inrecovery69 8 days ago

      Thanks BigFatDad, keep the positivity going. Thanks for the encouragement - it is upbuilding and means a lot. Thanks again.

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      BigFatDad 9 days ago

      Congratulations Inrecovery69! 4 weeks is awesome. I am on day 4, and it is not easy. Your post is an inspiration for today. I appreciate it. Keep it going.

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      Inrecovery69 10 days ago

      I last posted 4 weeks ago and I am happy to say i haven't gambled since then. Last time I had a relapse it nearly cost me my marriage; I didn't want that at all. I guess the realisation that I had just one last chance has really hit home. I was at the bottom; sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom for the only way to be up. So guys, if I can do it so can you. Put Family and yourself first; gambling is an unnecessary evil that controls and destroys lives. Keep this in mind always, and try to be closer to your loved ones...they are a real source of strength. Good luck to you all and I am hope my abstinence continues.

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      BigFatDad 13 days ago

      Chandra, if you feel like you want to do suicide, please don't! Your life has meaning and value and worth, and you can find it. If that feeling is overwhelming, you owe it to yourself, and to everyone that knows you and loves you, to come through this. SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY, call a hotline, or someone that loves you, and don't give up.

      I'm new to this page as well... I would have never dreamed that my life would bring me to this point. 4 years ago, when the company I work for changed ownership, I was demoted from a great executive management position in a factory, to a manufactures sales rep. Even though I lost all my authority and responsibility within the company, it turns out I had the ability to make tremendously more money...

      This should have been a great thing, right?? Turns out it wasn't....

      I found that all the extra money, which could have gone to pay down my kids college debt, my house, my cars, my credit cards, or anything else, ended up going to the casinos.

      I actually started planning my weekly customer visits around the casinos. I have now arrived at the point in my life, where I spend 30 or so hours a week in a casino, and less than 20 with my customers.

      That great money from the new position has gone due to my sales dropping off, and my debt is climbing quickly. I just need to stop, but it seems so frigging difficult.

      I have lied to my family, my friends, and my workplace about my addiction, but today I claim NO MORE!!! I CAN DO THIS!!

      Like bee said below " I'm going to give the casinos the finger as I drive by them.

      Thanks to everyone who has posted. It has been a great encouragement and very inspiring.

      One minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time..

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      Chandra mouli 2 weeks ago

      hii guys.i am new to this page. i just wanted to stop gambling.When ever i loose money i think of stopping it but i am not able to stop it for more than a week.i am a b tech student from India. My father gives me money every month end.But from the last 4 months i didn't even use single rupee in it.When ever he gives me money i will place that money in gambling.Now i am left with nothing.I even borrowed money from my friends too.Now what should i do.How to stop gambling....I am not able to come out of it.I tried a lot but i am not able to stop it.when ever some one gives me money for eating.Even that also i am spending on gambling.I am not able to sleep night properly also. only one thing that is going in my mind is how should i clear the money which i have taken from my friends.I want to do sucide......But my father is struggling a lot to make money so that i can study well. i want to take care of him in late stages.i want to share these thoughts with someone but even my friends are not letting me to come nearer to them also.so i shared here

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      Lovelife1215 2 weeks ago

      Sometimes you are sent to the right place. I am done. I have spent the Labor Day weekend in the casino. Lost more than I can even admit to myself. :-( I have lied to my family, saying "I want to stay home by myself". Ha! I spent the evenings with my "sick friends at the casino", Jack & Queenie & the other losers (sorry people) I often see there.

      I know why I gamble. 2 years & 2 months ago my 28 year old daughter died, she struggled with her own addictions, eating disorder, depression, alcoholism. I couldn't help her, and now she is gone. So now I live with that pain. At the casino I can forget the pain for a few hours. & feel good when I win (not that often, not at all this weekend!). I have 4, soon 5, beautiful grandchildren and 3 beautiful children, friends, why do I need to do this????

      I suspect my kids know my problem, but do not have an idea of the severity and would be horrified. As these young families struggle with money, I am throwing it in the garbage can. I must be crazy.

      Finding this article, the 12 helpful steps, and all your comments are giving me hope this morning, I am intelligent, I know I have a problem, but this is so hard. I hate that I was not more compassionate to my daughter's struggles. But I can do this for her. I will do this for her. Today I start. One day, one hour, one minute... that was her mantra and it will be mine.

      Thank you for listening, and I look forward to reading all your suggestions for stopping.

      (& damn you video poker, I really love to play! Just like an alcoholic loves the 'taste of beer'.

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      Dontgiveup 2 weeks ago

      Goldbar7, you are soo correct. My analogy is a casino is like a "crack" house. Some people can handle trying crack, but many people will get hooked and will keep going back to get "high" - I am definitely one of those people. Anyways - I have been gambling free for a solid 3 weeks (21 days) - I am happy about it, even though it is a daily struggle. I come to this post daily, sometimes 2-3x a day and if no new posts, I just go back and reread some prior posts. This, along with prayer, and talking about it with the people that care about me is important to my recovery, because, like alcohol and drug addiction, there is no cure, but it is manageable and I am hoping to have a better future! For now, one day at a time. God bless!

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      goldbar7s 2 weeks ago

      The casino is death. All the people there are ensnared in death. The cruel thing is that people feel like they are enjoying themselves while they are being killed.

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      Jackson rankin 3 weeks ago

      I am a gambler. I am 29 years old. I have five children and an amazing beautiful woman whom I lost to gambling. I spent all my money two weeks in a row. I promised my son who is six and the second youngest two packets of pokemon cards and nine fidget spinners this week totalling 50$ he lives in Auckland n I in taupo. His birthday was last week. He asked if I played for his bike. I lied and said yes I sent the money to his mum. He knew I was lying. I then went on to promise him what he wanted only simple little things to show that I love him once again I failed because of my addiction my greedy selfish addiction.

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      Enoughisenough 3 weeks ago

      I think everyone needs to know that we are all not alone in this fight. The first step to recovery is realizing that you have a problem and mine is an addiction to table games. I started with Blackjack then moved to Craps and then learned Baccarat. I will get paid on Friday and lose it all by Saturday morning and be scrambling until next pay day. The casino's make you think that you're valued by offering all these coupons and free this and that and all they're trying to do is get us through the doors and take more of our money. I will sit at the tables for 17 hours sometimes and only get up to go to the bathroom and leave there with nothing. Go back the next day chasing the losses from the day before and walk out with even less. One thing we have in common is the CHASE. No one that gambles is ever ahead. We win one day and lose it the next and it's a disgusting feeling. Life is so short and if we are going to spending our money why not spend it on things that we can show for like traveling! Today is my day 1 with no gambling. Today I take back my life.

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      Whyme? 3 weeks ago

      Won a bundle and then give it back plus more.

      That was 6 days ago. i'm trying to avoid going out so I won't gamble. So, I'm spending alot of time in bed.

      Trying to make it 30 days without gambling.

      I hope this blog gives me clarity.

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      Dontgiveup 3 weeks ago

      Hi bee, good for you! It's been 16 days for me now, the LONGEST I have been without gambling! Coming to this site has been transformative. Reading and sharing our stories has been very healing and inspiring to me. I wish you all the best, and please keep us posted. God bless!

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      bee 3 weeks ago

      hi everyone, i'm new here. I don't know where to begin. I'm addicted to slot machines. i decided on Saturday that I quit. I felt horrible lying to my husband about why i was pulling out so much money from the ATM. The breaking point was when we visited a mission in Mexico and realized that all these poor people were content with so little, and here I was just practically burning money on NOTHING. Well, on my addiction. And it was a hard pill to swallow. How could I have been so selfish, just wasting money on nothing? many times my husband check would just vanish...all because of my gambling. and I would lie and lie and lie and he would believe me. Well no more. I'm on day two of my recovery. And I know it will be hard. I drove past a casino today and I gave it the finger. Funny as it seems but I have to start thinking that it's the most horrific place I can go to now. We can do this. I can do this.

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      Pinoyben 4 weeks ago

      You are not alone my friend .... be strong! I'm also addicted to gambling but you can manage it ... in a way, you don't hurt yourself too much!.. don't over do it!!!!!..think about the value of money... our families and friends!.....remember, there's no winning in gambling ! Today u win..... next day you comeback then lose more than you win.... that's how it is my friend. I know it's fun.... but it is taking you slowly in the wrong way!..there's hope my friend......welcome on this site, Hopefully helps you!

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      Dontgiveup 4 weeks ago

      Closer77 and CF, thank you for posting. Like you guys, I literally just found this site and it is helping me relate and share with other gambling addicts. Recently, I was about to move out of the house that I have lived in for over 16 years, make my doggies and partner move with me, and move away from our best friends b/c I wanted to live in a cheaper place and "save" a lot of money and try to get out of debt (due to my gambling of course). This site helped me realize that I needed to "own my shit" and I cannot escape or run away (or pretend I was being financially smart). I was doing what a gambling addict usual does, what always did, make excuses as to why I needed to do what I needed to do - but not really telling the truth about where did all my money. On paper it sounds great, live more simply and move further away from casinos. The problem is, unless I plan on quitting my job and living within some reminiscent of civilization, I was kidding myself. We had signed a lease to rent and started moving our furniture, contacted realtors to sell our house, and prepped it sell, etc...when I got to this site 2 weeks ago, it helped me to realize that I didn't have to move, and the "really" reasons why I was moving. My partner, friends &family didn't want us to move, but "I" needed to realize that I didn't want to move b/c I was using the move to cover up all the horrible discussions that I had made. It was going to be a "fresh start" - you guys made me realize that I must "STAY", take ownership and that I could no longer hide, run, go under, over my PROBLEM - but I need to GO THROUGH this, OWN this, PAY the consequences for my ADDICTION, and LEARN from this. I will never, never be cured of this addiction, but I can MANAGE this addiction by 1) taking it one day at a time; 2) talking/posting about gambling; 3) keeping the focus on my addiction as the #1 most important thing that I needed to own - work, food, relationships was secondary - but stay focus that I CANNOT gambling; 4) Let go and Let God- there is a higher power at play - Pray 5) have faith and belief in myself that I deserve a better life - we all do my friends! 6) Again, talk to someone, I would NOW rather let people close to me, who love me, know that I have problem and that I need their support- rather than continue lying to them - and feeling ashamed. We are on this earth for a very, very short time - Now is the time to deal with addiction, have faith, and please Dontgiveup! God Bless.

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      MatchBettor 4 weeks ago

      I am hoping this post is somewhat therapeutic for me. I am in my mid-20's and live in Brazil where i do Matched Betting (Google It) Full time , i make good money doing this and it has been life changing in some aspects as the only job for a gringo here in brazil is teaching which is nowhere near a sustainable salary and is barley 20% of my income now. I have taken to matched betting massively and love the idea that it is upon me to make as much or as little money as i can. Casino offers are a huge part of my job (Mainly Slots) i would say it equates to about 50% of my income the other 50% being sports betting. Obviously with this comes an exposure to Online Casinos as well as having hundreds of pounds sitting in lots of different websites. Now i never had an issue with slots i always found once i hit a big win i never though it would pay out again and also with a lot of slot offers the buy-in to do them is small (normally under £50) meaning if i lose its only £50 I'm losing. My issue is with online Blackjack i first started using it 1 year ago to build up my winnings on casino websites and once i experienced a few big wins from blackjack well as they say the rest is history and i was hooked at first it was if it went under the radar as i would freak out at the thought of losing £100! so when i lost it was normally around that amount then i would stop. but then i came into a good chunk of money in the new year and then my losses started to get larger, after my first big loss (£400) i promised i would never do that again, sure enough a week later and i was back on it again i went through a week of accumulating big wins from blackjack i had made £1000 in 1 week just from blackjack but then by the end of the next week i had lost that £1000 and i was down ANOTHER £1000, as i said the severity never seemed so big because i was still making money doing matched betting so it was as if i was sustaining this habit but then every month my losses became more and more until 2 months ago i was £10,000 in debt which is crazy considering my monthly outgoings are £1500 and i make £4000 a month you do the maths and you can see i lost a SHIT TON of money! luckily my dad bailed me out and i said that i believe in what i do and that i would not make the mistake i made (i did not tell him the truth that i was 10k in debt because of blackjack instead i told it was due to a number of things and misplacing a BIG sports bet) he wasn't happy that i wanted to continue matched betting but i think he felt worried about what i would do (potentially suicide, although i never did contemplate this i can completely understand how people can get to that point) so he caved in and gave me money to start again, over the past 3 months i have cleared £8000 of that debt and have been doing great although i have still played blackjack from time to time i feel incredibly guilty when doing it, but to be honest i am writing on this page tonight because i feel i do have a problem and i have to be realistic I've lost about £800 this week on blackjack and feel the urge to play is stronger than ever i tell myself everyday i will never play it again and to look at the evidence of the past 2 months of when i didn't play i and made A LOT of money, but at the end of the day as I'm sure you are all aware the urge is very strong, at the moment i would say i am containing my addiction i am making more than i am losing and i am also very aware that i should not be doing it and that it is a toxic thing (this is the first step to accept its a problem) but i am very concerned that i could get sucked back into the gambling hole and if i were to lose everything like last time there would be no second chances and i feel the consequences would be even more severe

      My main issue is that there is no getting away from the access to gambling websites doing what i do , because i am sure that everyone who reads this will think "well obviously you need to stop what your doing" but when i tell you that it is not as simple as that you need to believe me and please try to take it into context

      i am living in brazil because my girlfriend is studying here my portuguese is limited so my only job options are teaching english which has an income of £1000 a month

      at the moment i make £4000 but will lose maybe £500-£800 of that on blackjack a month so obviously it is still much more lucrative to do what i do and i would really ask anyone who is reading this to put themselves in my position and really ask yourself would you stop doing a job that gives you £4000 a month and do something which gives £1000 a month even though the £4000 job has a big risk to it ? thats a question for everyone to answer subjectively but for me the answer id rather have the £4000 a month job

      but as i said i am still worried that i may be falling back into old habits , the past 2 months proved to me that i can control it but as i said this week i have fell back into it.

      its a long shot but if anyone has any advice other than "stop doing matched betting" then id love to hear it , i know about setting deposit limits but that will not work as i sometimes need to deposit thousands of pound in a site for a sports bet, maybe i might have a look into stake limiting to see if sites will let me have a stake limit on casino .

      Anyway i wish everyone on this site the best in their recovery i completely sympathies with you all but we do all have to take ourselves accountable for this mess we find ourselves in but having quit smoking and drinking in the past year i 100% believe we all can overcome our addictions , i think the best advice i have read on all these forums is to replace gambling with activities we need fun in our lives and things to look forward too i know its easy to say and harder to do , i have been struggling for a long time to find activities and i procrastinate about it frequently , but i know that is the key because it is BOREDOM which triggers my gambling ONLY THIS -- BOREDOM fill your life with great things and live it too the fullest.

      All the Best

      A

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      Closer77 4 weeks ago

      Hey guys just wanted to get on here and say that I've had a gambling problem for over 20years and it's been so hard for me to stop I'm blessed with a great job and a wonderful wife and family and I don't want to loose any of it. My problem has been online gambling I've lost over 250,000 in the last 2 1/2 years and I've been to a counselor and been on pills for it but none of that ever worked and yesterday I found this site and read some of the post on here and it made me realize that I need to stop gambling I'm sorry for all the things all u have been through and today has been the first day in a long time that I have not made a deposit it's been very hard I'm not gonna lie but I have to be done with it . Me and my wife's dream is to go to india and build shelters for all the homeless kids and I know that's possible because God has blessed me with the finances to do so. Again I've never bone anything like this before so I will pray for all of u and just ask that u pray for me as we all go through this struggle forgive me if my spelling and words are wrong not a very booksmart guy lol God bless all of u

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      Cf 4 weeks ago

      I have gambled for 6 years mainly on fobt they are a joke. I as many people would like to see them banned as we all know that wouldn't happen. I got into loads of debt and to ashamed to tell any of my family. The last straw was I lost 200 pounds I punched the machine and was banned from the shop. If we all stand together stop chasing your losses. I don't gamble now as I want live my live.

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      Dontgiveup 4 weeks ago

      Hi everyone, its been 12 days - I am doing good. The "calling" is starting to get less (but they are still there), but I am not fooling myself - I have to stay diligent and know that I am messed up, and that I CANNOT GAMBLE!

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      Dontgiveup 5 weeks ago

      Hi guys, day 7, it's Friday night and I have free slot dollars today. I am going thru withdrawal (physical and mentally), because I have the night free and it's been a long week and I deserve to get "high" and escape for awhile. But I forcing myself to take ownership and come back to this post to share and be honest with myself. I reread some of your posts to help me deal with this addiction. I read someone saying that it may take 30 days for your brain to rewire itself. I can't wait! Obviously, I know that 30 days is just the beginning, and for now, I just need to focus on the here and NOW! I keep chanting (my inner voice) I don't ever want or need to do "crack" (aka gambling) again! Stay strong everyone - God bless!

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      Dontgiveup 5 weeks ago

      Hi everyone, thank you for sharing your stories! Its powerful! First thing I want to say - besides THANK YOU, is there is HOPE! Even in my darkest hour (there have been many), I always thank God for life...my life. My story - I have been a gambling addict for almost 10 years. It started innocently - leisure and entertainment - I could afford to loss "a couple of bucks" at the beginning but it has spiraled into almost a daily addiction (4-5x a week) on average. I would think with anticipation of my next visit at the casino - in the morning I would write in my daily planner book, during work, coming home from work, going to bed - nonstop. Slots machines is my drug. Win or lose, winning jackpots or not I would still leave almost with nothing and 99% of the time with losses because I was chasing the high. I would just tell myself that it was ok that I only lost $100, then $500, then $1000 on one visit, and would stay on average 3hr to 4 hrs, but a few times more than 12 hours. I was driving over an hour to various places on work nights to "hit all of the casinos" that gave me "free slot dollars". I paced myself (I am a really organized, smart individual, "put together" with a great job - at least that's how I fooled myself and others). At one point, I had 5 casino membership cards and was "chasing the high". Thank god Atlantic City was 2.5 hrs away, and with at least 5 casinos within an 1-1.5hrs I had my fill (while also working full time, and hanging out with my friends and family) and keeping a façade. I was living a lie, I was lying to myself (that I was in control and that it wasn't that bad, and things could be worst). I was a "functional gambling addict" like many of you here on this post. So for the past 6-7 years I accepted that fact, I had some highs, but mostly lows, and the highs that I did have needed to be higher, I was no longer content if I won a $100, or a couple hundred dollars - I was soo numb and bored and felt that the "machine" owed me more, that if I don't "hit big" then I haven't really won - and just as scary, I felt like I deserved it - I deserved to win - win BIG. Talk about pathetic and sad- that's me. In any case, I am on my 6th day of not gambling. It's not about will power, self loathing or shame, I have FINALLY decided to own it - I have told my dearest friends and family, I have asked them for their love and support, ask them to hold me accountable because I "need" to get better so I can be the person I was before this addiction took over. I have started to associate the casinos as the "crack house" and I no longer want to be a crack junkie. I am telling myself daily that I own my life, and its not about will power, but surrendering to the truth. I have to face my "demons" head-on DAILY (just like the compulsion to gamble) I need the same desire/focus to stay vigilant! I will pray for you all, god bless. I will post again soon, I promise.

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      goldbar7s 5 weeks ago

      Went to Atlantic City on Monday. I did not go to gamble. I went to walk the Boardwalk and to sit by the ocean to think and I did that. The only gambling I did was the $30 free slot play I got for the bus trip. I won $33. At one point I looked into my purse for my wallet and my wallet was gone. The day turned into a nightmare. When I got home I checked my accounts and hundreds of dollars were charged on my credit cards. Hundreds of dollars were charged on my bank debit card. Someone knew exactly what to do with that wallet. So, I lost big in Atlantic City, not to slots but to a sharp criminal. Maybe sooner or later I will understand what a complete dummy I am.

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      Imatwitsend 5 weeks ago

      I've read the stories and I need help !!! I've lost 2 houses in less than a year. I've lied to my wife and family members to feed my addiction. I'm currently living with my wife's parents I pay rent here but I have not paid this month !!! I love to gamble even when I win I lose because I'm trying to win bigger jackpots 500 to 2000 is nothing . I've tried to quit gambling but I can't. Was doing well for a bit but when those free buffets come to me I go and it's like the gaming area calls me and I can't stop . I'm about to lose my family I've got to get help!!!!

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      AC2 6 weeks ago

      I have a gambling problem. I know I do, I admit it but continue to go to the casino every chance I get. I lie to my husband, I ask my son to lie for me, I am now pawning things to allow me to have money to go. I just got back..I went with 125.00, hit 400.00, came home with .15. I am so disgusted with myself. I tried telling myself on the way home if this damn woman would have gotten off the machine I wanted to play (and have thought about this machine since last week when I first played it) that I would still have all the money. I am still feeling angry that she sat there knowing I wanted the damn machine! See, I have a problem but all I want to do is figure out how to get the next 1-200.00 so I can go back and try to win something, knowing damn well I will still come home with nothing because I have NO SELF CONTROL! My god, I just a entire box of cereal! Im a mess! My grandparents and I would go to the casino together, grandma died a couple years ago, I have brought her with me in her little urn that I have. Grandpa is in the nursing home and can no longer go. I go every week by myself. My husband is pissed! He was telling me via text tonight that if I went he was taking the kids and leaving. I still went. I told him I had free money on my card that I was going to use (which was true) but I didnt tell him what I had pawned to go there. I hear the sounds in my head, I hear the bells dinging and all I want to do is to go back. SO LOST IN LIFE RIGHT NOW!

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      goldbar7s 6 weeks ago

      Videopokerloser, thank you for sharing your insight about the problem we are experiencing. It really is a great help. Good luck to you!

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      it s been a while since i posted a comment. tbh, it was really hard, i was able to stop for 3 months, then one big mistake, relapsed again. it just so hard that, you stop, saved money, then one big mi 6 weeks ago

      sorry for the negatives, but this is our reality.

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      Noname 6 weeks ago

      Hello, I have been gambling for more then 15 years and going to GA religiously once a week for more then 5 years and I still can't stop gambling. I've lost everything my home, family and friends. I think I love gambling more then anything and nothing can stop me from not placing a bet. I feel like home when I'm in casinos, I love sitting in front of the machine and press that F button. I feel so powerful when I have money to play and noone can tell me how to live my life. Most of the time people can't tell that I have a problem. I look good and happy, very chatty and no one knows what has been happening to me what I really feel deep inside. When I loose I feel lost, abundant, lonely, sick to my stomach, etc. That last for a few days until I get better and then I'm back in action. I cannot describe how severe this addiction is. I'm hopeless and most of the time want to disappear. The only what keeps me alive is knowing that my children will suffer if I do anything to myself. I pray every day to God to give me strength to stop gambling. Gambling has total control of my life. I really wish that one day I will not return to casinos and start living life and be real happy person again.

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      InRecovery69 6 weeks ago

      I am a compulsive gambler and i need help. These are two important admissions. I was openly exposed to gambling as a child as my mum and dad both gambled. The disease took hold of me and has made my life tell since the age of 16. I have caused so much heartache for my lovely wife who married me after I convinced her I could quit. We have been married 9 years now and have a beautiful 8 year old daughter. I have tried to quit during our marriage and even went 3 years without spending as much as a pound on the lottery! This was great, we were so happy then. However, I lapsed a couple of times and filled my life with lies in order to cover my gambling. I lied to my wife nearly everyday. I was ashamed of this. I would cry on the way home and have to perk myself up before entering the front door so I could lie convincingly to my wife. To cut a long story short I lapsed recently and took out payday loans, long term loans and credit cards in order to find money to replace what I had lost. My wife found out as I had no choice but to admit what I had done. She, through some kind of miracle us still with me. She is helping me...it is so important to have support from someone so close. But I hurt her a lot. She would cry a lot by herself and with my daughter. I felt so sad, suicidal at times. We went through a difficult period when she found out. It was very hard. Somehow I convinced her to give me one last chance and she has. This was in March and it is now August. I am happy to say I haven't gambled in this period. I have done something I had been unwilling to do in the past through pride alone; I gave her my credit cards and debit card. I gave her access to my online banking and online credit card apps. I have given her complete transparency of my finances. She goes through my accounts to check the balances and takes comfort in the fact that she knows where my money goes each month. At the moment it is mostly going towards clearing the loans and credit cards, but a lot goes toward paying the rent and keeping on top of bills. I gambled in bookies and online casinos and it is hard to stop. Letting someone take control of your finances or have clear visibility of where your money goes is so important. This is a big big help. However, gamblers are cunning and there are always ways to deceive people. You have to really want to not gamble, to not lie, to be honest with your spouse. I want all of those desperately. Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to have this desire and I hit rock bottom. The thought of losing my wife and child was awful. The pain of all I had done through gambling was awful. The mental anguish I endured and the physical pain that I caused myself through self-harm was awful. The low esteem in which those who know about my problem hold me was awful. The friends I have alienated is awful. The pain I put my wonderful wife through was awful. So many negatives to gambling...i cannot think of one absolutely genuine positive. My wife is so happy that i am in recovery, however, she still struggles with thoughts of how our life would be if I was not a gambler. We would own our own home and our daughter would have her own bedroom and a beautiful garden to play in. It is not too late for me, I have a well paid job and a final chance. I intend to cease that final chance with both hands. Finally, I owe a debtor gratitude to Jehovah our god. His power has given my wife strength and he has given me strength. Prayer and faith are two amazing things that can help anyone achieve anything. Do not underestimate them. I thank God for my wife, she has literally saved my life. I owe her a happy life and future which I can give her...if I can abstain from gambling. I hope my post is useful. Good luck to everyone cursed by this horrible addiction.

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      videopokerloser 7 weeks ago

      Lauragirl, I stay on this list for confirmation to stay away from gambling. Been there, done that many times with $2k down the tubes. I couldn't go to GA either, but went to private one-on-one counseling for 6 months. Big difference. You have to stay away from gambling for at least 1 month in order for your brain to start reverting away from the reward neurotransmitters. Slowly after, you begin to realize what you've done. The chasing your money ache goes away, the desire to gamble turns to outward sickness-nausea, at least it did with me. You have to understand that gambling is like alcoholism or any other addiction. It changes your brain. It's hard, but don't gamble for at least a month and clarity will return. You'll make better decisions. I messed up once earlier this year, but it made me realize how stupid it is to gamble. Been 'clean' over a year outside of that, and now am just a few months away from buying a house with a large down payment. I'd be in the poor house I was in before if I still gambled. Btw, I live in Las Vegas.

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      Lauragrl6627 7 weeks ago

      I've been reading the blogs on this site an hour now because this week I lost 2000 dollars and had not gambled in months. I just seem to open Pandora's box at times that I feel lonely. Chasing my losses has made me nuratic. I am trying to find a solution for my problem without GA because guys this did not work for me. I can not sit in a group therapy session does anyone have any suggestions because I need real help. This makes no sense to me how I ended up sneaking around and sitting alone in a casino sweating to try to catch up and pay my debt. Please give me good advice because I'm gonna go insane. It's a cruel habit as it ended a relationship with a man I truly loved but since his mother was a compulsive gambler and he had nothing to do with her for 30 years, I should have paid more attention to what he was going through with me. He is gone now and I have to stop pining for him to come back and I really have not changed my situation at all. I want to change and start a new healthy life without this dragon breathing down my neck to pull into the casino. I even Uber people around the casino all night and that's not good anymore but I am trying to make up some of my losses and pay my bills. HELP!!

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      goldbar7s 8 weeks ago

      This game is bigger than all of us. Everyone that puts a dollar in a machine and sees how money can come out of it is addicted and is thinking about their next visit to the casino. We all start believing we can win. This is only very sad. We cannot win!

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      GaryThomp 2 months ago

      Day 9 nearly over and it's getting easier each day. Don't suffer and think there's no help out there as there is.

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      IN pain..... 2 months ago

      Every payday.. Pay my bills, tell myself im not going to gamble.. I never win. Ends up spending £500+ every 4 weeks. Ive had enough, I never even win anything to walk away and enjoy I just loose loose loose. I can't believe im so fucked in the head to keep doing it. I literally cannot control it. I also have £10 left for 4 weeks. same position as every other month tbh.

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      Pinoyben 2 months ago

      You are not alone my friend! The only way to win in gambling is to S T O P!

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      jerry 2 months ago

      I start to gamble at the age of 19, now I'm turning 44 in October, hoping to stop going to casino. It's hard that everytime I promise myself to stop stil I sneak in whenever I have free time, hopefully I will be true to myself this time.

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      GaryThomp 2 months ago

      It's horrible Roly, I've done the exact same things at times. I'm only on day 3 but feeling good for it. I'm back on that book and it seems to be the only thing that makes me think about what I'm doing.

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      Roly poly 2 months ago

      It's true as you can never be in control when your chasing! Not gambled for 3 months and a moment of madness I ended up losing 800! The same cycle time and time again! Really had enough of life!

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      Christopher1985 2 months ago

      Thank you Goldbar. It is a relief to get help. I encourage everyone posting to go to GA meetings as we need to realize we can never ever be cured but we can arrest this disease by going to continuous meetings. The 2 hours you spend each week far outweighs the massive negative consequences and potential time lost from relapsing.

      Please do not bother posting if you refuse to receive help as it is very unlikely to quit on your own.

      I do hope everyone posting can quit for good.

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      Gary Thompson 2 months ago

      Reading all the comment here it's both good and horrible to know I'm not the only one. Good that I'm not alone but horrible there is so many other people in the same position. No matter how many times my friends and family help me out I manage to fuck it all up again. It seems like I like to get myself in complete messes. Marriage fucked, friendships fucked and on the verge of my mother wiping her hands with me. I've got a very well paying job and I've got nothing to show for it. My wife's mother died 2 months ago and I had to borrow the money from my mum so she could go to the funeral, I didn't even have enough for me and my son to go with her. Completely ashamed of myself. Lost another £400 odd i didn't have last night and already owe 80% of my wages at the end of the month. Couldn't pay my bills this month because I'm an inconsiderate prick. I had a good strong word with myself last night and today. I'm determent to get a life as I've wasted the last 20 with this crap. Last year I stopped for 2 months after I bought the audio book "Allen Carr Easyway to Stop Gambling" it did work for me for them 2 months but then I got cocky and thought I could control it, I was wrong I'm actually worse than ever I feel. I've got hundreds of embarrassing stories of all the shit I done to fund my gambling but it would take a lifetime to mention them all. I need help I know I do and today is the start of my new life. I'm in a good enough job where I will get my life on track in a year or so, it's not long at all because if I don't fix this now I'm going to be a very sad lonely old man some day with a lifetime of regrets. I'm only 39 I've got a few years left on this planet, please god don't let gambling control the rest of them. If anyone needs to talk just add me on skype (red25devil) I need to talk also so some support for each other can only be a good thing. Peace out and everyone have a great gambling free day xx

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      GaryThomp 2 months ago

      Reading all the comment here it both good and horrible to know I'm not the only one. Good that I'm not alone but horrible there is so many other people in the same position. No matter how many times my friends and family help me out I manage to fuck it all up again. It seems like I like to get myself in complete messes. Marriage fucked, friendships fucked and on the verge of my mother wiping her hands with me. I've got a very well paying job and I've got nothing to show for it. My wife's mother died 2 months ago and I had to borrow the money from my mum so she could go to the funeral, I didn't even have enough for me and my son to go with her. Completely ashamed of myself. Lost another £400 odd i didn't have last night and already owe 80% of my wages at the end of the month. Couldn't pay my bills this month because I'm an inconsiderate prick. I had a good strong word with myself last night and today. I'm determent to get a life as I've wasted the last 20 with this crap. Last year I stopped for 2 months after I bought the audio book "Allen Carr Easyway to Stop Gambling" it did work for me for them 2 months but then I got cocky and thought I could control it, I was wrong I'm actually worse than ever I feel. I've got hundreds of embarrassing stories of all the shit I done to fund my gambling but it would take a lifetime to mention them all. I need help I know I do and today is the start of my new life. I'm in a good enough job where I will get my life on track in a year or so, it's not long at all because if I don't fix this now I'm going to be a very sad lonely old man some day with a lifetime of regrets. I'm only 39 I've got a few years left on this planet, please god don't let gambling control the rest of them. If anyone needs to talk just add me on skype (red25devil) I need to talk to so some support for each other can only be a good thing. Peace out and everyone have a great gambling free day xx

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      goldbar7s 2 months ago

      Christopher, I am glad that you found help!

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      goldbar7s 2 months ago

      Everyone that goes into a casino and puts money into the machine and sees how money can come out of that machine is addicted. Everyone there is addicted. It is a growing problem.

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      Aidian 2 months ago

      My husband is compulsive gambler and it is destroying our life. I've tried everything know to save my marriage. I'm tired of the back and fourth and its like he doesn't want . I don't know what to do.

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      Pinoyben 2 months ago

      If you are gambling ..... you are in trouble!

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      Ricky Bobby 2 months ago

      I've Gamble heavily for the past seven years. I have a black card from Maryland live, hard rock. Diamond from Harris, Platinum with MGM I'm heavily in debt and owe hundreds of thousands dollars to the IRS. Have a wonderful girlfriend that is dedicated to help me get back on track. I'm gonna put all of the energy that I put into gambling to pay off my debt and show my devotion to her. My girl, my family and I have gone through a lot over the last seven years. I know, I can overcome. I have overcame greater obstacles. I will report back in six months!

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      gerald latchman 3 months ago

      I am a lonely person and I gamble to fine some comfort but I keep losing money and I want to stop the gambling .Please help me

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      Joe 3 months ago

      Besides self-exclusion option, how else can a casino help a compulsive gambler. Do you think they should have a gambling counselor on premise, to help direct them towards proper treatment? The casino should do more to help.

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      misty 3 months ago

      i think the best remedy to stop going to casino is having no money with you even for bus fare so that you can stay at home while on the process of quitting. it is hard but we need to and ask God.s mercy.

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      Jay jay 3 months ago

      I have been off gambling for last 4 weeks. I lost $50000 in online and land based casinos. I could easily purchased a new luxury Jaguar car which I have been dreaming for ages. Now, I have lost the money, it's no point getting upset "I'll not get it back" . I have to Stop Gambling. I want keep myself away. I know I would be tempted. I want to not gamble until I have reached $50000 and then on I will be able to keep my will power going. Still getting text messages and emails from the casinos. Sorry Bro! I have stopped and can't go back

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      Helpme 3 months ago

      I am a compulsive gambler and I need help!

      Please god help me quit. From now on I'm not gambling anymore.

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      Lasvegas 3 months ago

      I keep going back to put in my money in the poker machines, try to chasing my lost with playing big but ended up lost all the money i had . All i want is my playing vidio poker and win my money back . I cant get out this gambling problem from my head. my husband dont care and ask me to get help by myself, he is the one who brought me and teach me how to playing vidio poker and i get addicted then ruin me , i lost the money i saved for so many years, i feeling hopeless,stressfull , want to kill myself..

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      Freeroll 3 months ago

      Just in the the freeroll ticket and come 3rd for 150 and my ace king lost againest king jack as hit a jack! Cost me at least 150 and maybd 300! So sick!!

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      Pinoyben 3 months ago

      One day at a time ... that's where I am! I'm a compulsive gambler.. so bad.. lost a lot of money!.. we're all in the same boat... quit gambling for a while. Then might gamble again! I'm struggling right now... still fighting this addiction.... urge still there!... nobody is safe in this illness... be strong my friend... there's hope!

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      Shono 3 months ago

      Well can't believe I've done this.. I'm desperate to quit gambling.. I've ruined my finances.. started debt consolidation.. which will ruin my credit.. say I'm staying out of the casino but go anyway.. 3 times this week! And it's all a secret.. no one knows my shame .. not friends not family.. today I gambled.. lost.. again.. sooo tomorrow will be day 1 of quitting.. I hope.. I just need to keep telling myself the casino could care less.. they aren't gonna let me win.. I could never possibly ever win enough to break even.. this has been 2 years of a black abyss .. I need it to stop.. I want to be happy again.. I don't want to constantly be broke and anxious when I can't pay bills.. so tomorrow will be day 1 and I'll see how it goes

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      Doug polk 3 months ago

      Just stick to poker mate! I used to lose all the time in casino games. Now I made up a site on how to win money! It's called UPSWING POKER. Check it out and start making money like me

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      quitter 3 months ago

      I forgot to mention that yesterday after I lost the extra £125 I went back and lost another £400... so £525 + the £275 I had won originally... so £800 altogether.

      I have closed another savings account to cover it, and this is day 1 of not gambling ever again... again.

      Do you think if I post on here everyday I will stop completely? Especially if I also write a reminder of why I am here on the site?

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      quitter 3 months ago

      I was going to start this with a lot of expletives... so you have already guessed what has happened! I was doing quite well until last week. I went into a casino and won £25... then left. I know it was a lapse, but let it slide because I won (I know that is not how it works).

      Anyway last night, my car broke and the quote to fix it was £243! So into the bookies I went and within 30mins I had won £275 to cover the costs... and I left! But then on the walk home I popped into another bookies, and to cut a long story short... I lost the £275 plus another £125!!!

      Why do I do this to myself. So here I am again. 07/06/2017 will be day 1 again of zero gambling!!! Aaaarrrrggghhh....

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      Christopher1985 3 months ago

      Do people post on here as a joke? I mean some people trying to scam others, some saying they will only gamble on certain games with certain amounts. Does anyone go to GA meetings? If you are posting on here and are serious you need to at least go to GA for 30 days. Try it out and if you want to gamble after 30 days, gambling will still be there. It is not going anywhere.

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      Skanker 3 months ago

      The only way to do it is stick to poker and play nothing else! Yeah it gets boring buts that's the only way

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      goldbar7s 3 months ago

      Stop!!

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      James Barker 3 months ago

      Please help me I'm 14 and I keep gambling any pennie I get ive got up too thousands before but I cant stop I end up losing it in total ive lost like a whole year of me doing work for my parents getting money they don't know what I do with the money but I really need help I cant stop!

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      Gboon 3 months ago

      I just realized I'm just like my father. His addiction was alcohol,mine is gambling in the casino. I always said I was nothing like him,But God the truth just smacked me in the face. Taking my paycheck & losing it at the casino instead of liquor & skanks. But the same ,you know? Lying,spending money we don't have,hours wasted in the casino that could be spent with family.this is a hard truth. I never wanted to be anything like him.. But this is my truth, right? I am a gambling addict.

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      goldbar7s 3 months ago

      It finally happened. My car went and I did not have the money to have it fixed or to have it replaced. I have no way of making money without having a car. I was able to get a car with payments. I cannot go to a casino until I get this car paid off. I have been thinking a lot about the spell the casino has had on me. The state that I live in has passed laws that will allow slot machines in bars and will allow much more online gambling . I have been wondering about what they are doing to us. It occurred to me that it is all the baby boomers that are now are demanding their retirement payments and the millions that will be requiring the payments that has the payments coming soon. The only way they can pay everything owed is to get us all addicted to gambling?

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      Sinead 3 months ago

      Gambling destroys us and gives us no life!

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      Same result - Might as well enjoy it 3 months ago

      I don't think I will ever learn. I don't think I will ever quit, as in quit forever. The last 14 years, the gambling cycle repeated itself. I quit, attend GA, relapsed. I quit again because I don't have any more money or job. Once I got back on my feet, I jumped right back in it. I have a great job. I am a great software programmer making lots of money, but I have to live paycheck by paycheck. Every month, I deposit a huge amount of dollars, then withdraw it all in the casino. I guess that I should live with it, live with no regret. No matter how many times I kicked myself or swear, I live and repeated the same pattern. It has been 14 years... What can I do, I don't think I can ever quit... I just got back from the casino with not even a dollar in my wallet. I am waiting for my next check. For those who crossed the line and those who think they addicted to gambling... Sorry to let you know friends, your chance of quitting is less than 5% success. All the people I met in casino for the last 14 years, they are still there... Even thought they lost everything. My thought... Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop kicking your ass. Stop all those excuses or promises... Just live happy and enjoy your next gambling session, win or lose. "Self therapy"

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      Most unlikely 3 months ago

      I dnt even know how it all even started, i always liked gambling for fun may be 2-3 times a year for small amounts. That never became an addiction. I am also a big fan of all sports, i watch any sports on TV. Two years ago i came across an online gambling site and started to bet on NBA finals ($20-30) per bet. I won some and ended up losing by the end of the series. I got hooked to sports gambling, next thing i know i lost almost 50k in the last two years most of it is from credit cards. I tried to stop multiple time but ended up playing more. I bet on sports that i dnt know anything about just to have action. And all think about is what will be the odds for next match. Everybody aound me knows i like sports but none of them would believe if i tell them i lost this much on gambling. I have a very normal life with an amazing wige and a 2 year old son and a decent paying jod.

      I dont know how to stop. All i think about is what will be the odds for next game. This is not who i want to be.

      Everyday i tell myself i will play only select games and earn some money back and stop, but even if i win i will play on the sports i shouldnt and lose. I am at my tipping point.

      Hope i will be able to stop and payoff my debts.

      Good luck to the rest of you.

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      goldbar7s 4 months ago

      Please stop trying to win other peoples money. Please be happy with what you have.

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      quitter 4 months ago

      So... Today is day 5 of not gambling. Already it has been tough and nearly slipped again.

      3 days ago I walked past 3 casinos and struggled to "just walk by". I was lucky in a way because I was on the phone to my wife saying I was on the way to meet her for dinner. Then when I got to the shopping centre where I was meeting her I had to walk past another casino... Luckily she called me to ask me where I was.

      Then today... It only takes something very little to trigger the gambler in me... I accidently lost £2 when I paid too much for parking, and I immediately started to think that that would be easy to win back on a bet. So here I am, writing all this down as a way to realise that I need to stop thinking about it and just get on with whatever else I need to be doing other than losing more money!

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      Wendy Golden 4 months ago from New York

      As the adult child of a Compulsive Gambler, I can vouch that this is an excellent article full of wise advice and information. A very thorough job of offering the CG help and advice. Thank you.

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      Fake guy 4 months ago

      Why do we do it to ourselves! I think God is the only answer.

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      Steve1821 4 months ago

      Happened to me today! Betting small and just hoping to win small and 300 gone! 700 last month! Had a guts full! Busted my leg so it's like a escape from that gambling for me

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      larry 4 months ago

      Quitter...look at it this way. You just wrote how a few years ago you lost thousands and thousands of pounds. You now lost "a another few" thousand pounds. STOP NOW! take the loss and realize you will not win it back or continue and lose thousands and thousands more!

      The problem is not that you started again. Its only a problem if you don't stop! Stop now! You've been there before... Good Luck!

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      quitter 4 months ago

      It pains me to be writing on here again. My story from a few years ago about how I had lost thousands and thousands of pounds is on here... And how I had sought help from my wife by owning up to her and gaving her all my credit cards.

      I thought I had kicked the habit and was doing really well, and thought I had sorted myself out. I was even given my cards back. But over the last few months I have started up again, and now I have probably lost another few £1000. I started of with small bets and winning small... And I was okay with that. Then the bets started getting bigger, bigger wins but much bigger losses. This just proves that once a gambler... Always a gambler.

      So this is where I have to start again. I have to, I missed dinner with my family because I was too busy losing £400! I cannot let my wife know I lost control again so this time I am going to be stronger. I know I have said this before, but tomorrow will be day 1 again of my ban from gambling. And I dont care how much I may bore people here... But everytime I think about gambling I'll probably be on here typing something to get me away from that temptation.

      This is take 3 of kicking this habit for good! Wish me luck... Again!

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      videopokerloser 4 months ago

      Sonia, I hope you get caught and spend the rest of your life in prison. Hey, I guess you won't be walking the streets anymore, but you'll be walking a cell block instead. Disgusting of you to post this anywhere, but on a site where people are struggling with gambling? May God have mercy on your soul.

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      Larry 4 months ago

      What a great day today! I went to the casino for Mother's Day and looked the beast in the eye! I walked right to the roulette table...of course all "my numbers" we're coming out! I told myself that I was not a loser and walked out!! I won! Good luck to all!

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      Christopher1985 4 months ago

      Larry,

      Without help we are all in trouble. I have a Gamblers Anonymous meeting tonight and I feel that I can finally stop. If you don't go to GA you are telling yourself you want to continue gambling. Start going to meetings. If your gambling has brought you to this site find a way to go to at least one meeting a week. your life will start to change for the better.

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      Larry 4 months ago

      Think before you gamble! I got the urge today and then I thought of all those losers that I see...broke! Do you want to be like them? Remember what it feels like to lose! The regret! And you will lose! BE STRONG!!! The urge will pass...that's how you win!!!! Good luck to all!

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      larry 4 months ago

      I hate this time of year...Kentucky Derby and a weekend of gambling cost me $10,000. I stop for a while but always go back! I wish I could stop...I know it's a waste of time and money! Good luck to all!

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      Sparkley 4 months ago

      I read these post they are2 months old how is everyone doing..i have a slot addiction for years was into horse racing worked at the track now I work at a casino spend way too much on gambling I am 62 years old..and female most of the people I know go to casino I getting bored with it but still having a hard time quitting..help..

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      JohnDoe 4 months ago

      I've first started gambling at the tender age of 16, played at a $2 blackjack table and ended up winning $17, which at the time seemed like a lot of money. I've been hooked ever since. I'm 33 now, and have been a degenerate gambler. I go through periods of dry "non-gambling", however, whenever I feel like I need to make money or need a "release" i always fall back to to gambling. It's a sick disease I can't seem to get rid of. I've tried so hard to kick this habit - attended GA once, but after that one session I told myself "I don't need GA to quit, I can do this on my own" after seeing everyone else and judging them, which I had no right to. I just went to the casino and lost a large sum of money, and now feel like shit. I see how this makes me feel, makes me feel isolated from my family and friends. I don't feel like spending time with them, I just want to be alone, I feel like im at the bottom of the barrel. But for whatever reason, I find a way to go back. This feeling of loneliness/depression only lasts for a few days, then when i feel better I get the false "courage/confidence" that I can go back into the casino and lock in a big win. How do I get rid of this feeling? It's become sickly cyclical. Reading these stories below has helped me tremedously at the moment, sharing my/our struggles here help me realize that I'm not the only one. And listening to stories of hope and how you guys are all coping with it gives me the hope to get rid of this habit/disease. Paul said it best, if i had spent the time, energy and effort into to something else, I'd be pretty damn good at it. There's a reason why I'm constantly broke, depressed and isolated, when i look back at my life, the common factor is gambling. I really need to kick this habit, hopefully this time it'll be for good. Thank you all for sharing your stories, every bit helps and gives me hope that we can all get past this. The rush isnt worth the consequences.

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      goldbar7s 4 months ago

      Thank you to everyone for your valuable input. It helps all of us.

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      Christopher1985 4 months ago

      I finally went GA meeting last night. I think that is the only way for me to get help. I started posting on this board a couple years ago but never stopped gambling.

      I feel that is the first step if you truly wish to stop gambling. I want to keep going and have already received much support and help from the other members.

      I strongly suggest everyone posting here to go to Gamblers Anonymous to really get help. Please don't lie to yourself and just go. You will feel much happier right away.

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      Herman 5 months ago

      I read many of the comments here and there is so much I can relate to. Your stories give me strength and make me see that I'm not the only one with this problem.

      I consider myself to be an intelligent person in control of my emotions and actions but when it comes to gambling I have realized that I'm powerless. It started when I turned 18. At first it was poker and sports betting. All of my best friends also bet and played poker so it was no surprise that I took it up as well. At first it was not a problem and I had a strong grip on how much I spent and it was purely entertainment. It all changed a few years later when I turned to slot machines. I won at first and felt like I can play in a controlled way the same way I did playing poker and betting on sports. This changed quickly and I completely lost control. I've never had a lot of money but most of the money that I did make I ended up losing. For me the amount of money I lost was only half of the story, I felt even worse about the time I spent gambling. This was precious time that I could have used to do something to pursue my dreams. I managed to quit it all together for a year or so but now I'm back at it again and the problem is more serious than ever. I'm not lying when I tell you that I've made the decision at least a hundred times to stop and I always slip for one reason or another. For me it's also harder to quit because I work in the gambling industry and I'm constantly in contact with it.

      Now when I gamble I don't go in the casino and think I'm going to win. In fact I prepare myself for losing beforehand. So you think why the hell do I do it then? Because I'm addicted. I've isolated the reasons why I slip but this has not helped me. My brain is so used to making that decision to gamble that I've lost power over it. I have always believed that I can overcome this myself and I don't need outside help but I don't know if that is true anymore.

      Anyway I thought writing this post will help me and I'm inviting everyone who is reading this to make this the first day of the rest of your much improved life without gambling. A life where you are in control of your decisions. The human brain has endless power so I believe I can stop and so can everybody else. I'm still hopeful regardless of everything.

      The only bet that will change your life is the one that you do not make!

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      Andy 5 months ago

      I just lost 700$ in machine. Now can't sleep!

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      goldbar7s 5 months ago

      It is so sad to see all the old people in the casino spending all their money and they have no other life but the casino. It is so sad to see 20 year old people in the casino that are just starting their addiction into this nightmare. This is SICK!!

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      stevex36x 5 months ago

      i am laying in bed sick right now as i lost 700 yestreday and all from just wanting to make a silly tenner! i got accept that i have no control over gambling and i am powerless to it!

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      Eduardo Nunez 5 months ago

      Hi everyone, my weakness is sports. I tell my self everyday I don't have a problem then come's the end of the day and I hate myself all over again. I know I can stop this, but I chose not too. Every night I make a parlay of games that I will play the following day and so help me if it wins and I didn't play them, that feeling is worse then losing. I've recently been good where I'll go 3 or four days in a row without gambling but I'm still making these secret parlays without playing them. I have the habit of justifying the parlays that I don't play and that end up losing and using it as a way to convince myself to play one the next day or weekend. If I lose a bet I try to trick myself in making that money back in depriving myself of something I may need such as food, drink or entertainment. I realize my problem is minuscule in the grand scheme of everything but it makes me hate myself that I have this weakness. I pray for anyone who struggles with gambling and know I understand. Stay committed and focused.

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      stevex36x 5 months ago

      stay strong everyone and remember this illness is for life!!

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      nobody 5 months ago

      hi, just wanted to say i get my inspiration to stop by reading these comments every day as i can relate to most of these comments,thank you and good luck everyone

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      GoldBar7s 6 months ago

      Have not been going to the casino. I have been going to the library and have been catching up on reading. On my days off I go to see a movie. It is VERY, VERY boring compared to going to the Casino but at the same time it is nice and I wake up with my money intact. I guess this is how life is. It is a little boring and you have to think of constructive ways of spending your time. I completely forgot that when the Casino came to town. Sitting at the slot machine and putting my money in it was the only thing I wanted to do.

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      Paul 6 months ago

      Losing

      Wining

      ,tell me the difference ,you don't care about the money you don't care about the people you hurt ,is, just you and that filling, no body push you but friends, family try to stop you which is wrong, all the time they they will remind you "you are a loser" change your friends and run, change your life

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      Joanne x 6 months ago

      It's like hell on earth living with a gambler. Gambling is their best friend when they're sad it's there for them when they're happy it's there.. You can't fight it, they destroy everyone slowly and painfully without a second thought. I hit rock bottom way before he did and believed I was fine with tje lies stealing and cheating, even though if told him a million times I wasn't. After losing $350,000+ I couldn't go on, even when he said that was it he'd never gamble again because he'd been saying that for 11 years. I now live in my car as he's financially ruined me but I think the emotional side of it is something that will follow me forever. I don't believe or trust anyone and I hate that

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      videopokerloser 6 months ago

      I used to be a sick gambler and posted my setbacks and progress many times on this list over the years. What broke the pattern for me was one-on-one therapy, but last week, I had a coupon for a restaurant that was in a casino. Even though I felt anxiety, I put $20 in a machine and lost it. I went to the ATM three times before I left and lost all of that as well. I was so devastated I wasn't "cured" I didn't eat at the restaurant. Did I feel stupid? Yes. Am I stupid? No! My point is, you can never let your guard down. It's the same with an alcoholic thinking I'll just only have one drink. You can't. I've since went back to college to get my master's degree in social work and am taking a class on addiction. Unfortunately, research has shown if you started some kind of addictive behavior (which I have-smoking) before reaching the age of 18, you have a 25-50% chance of becoming an addictive adult to something. The reward pathway genes (DNA) were altered. So don't beat yourself up too bad. Gambling addiction is a disease like any other. It's a brain dysfunction, not a free will issue. Get help if you can. It's hard to walk into that door the first time, but it will help you get your self esteem back and understand yourself more. God bless each and every one of you!

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      JD 6 months ago

      This disease is destroying us ALL. We ALL say we're gonna stop and quit but it seems that in the end without outside help from experts (counseling) we're ALL gonna go right back to gambling eventually. Please Lord help us ALL.

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      Edward 6 months ago

      Hello we everyone so I just found this blog yesterday and read almost every message. My name is Edward and I'm a compulsive gambler and have been since I was 15, I am now 38. The last couple years I haven't bet but and saved around 20k and had no debt. I moved to Las Vegas recently and started betting again. It's so easy here. My game of choice is sports betting. Had a lot on the super bowl and the Falcons imploded and ever since then lost my winnings back. I have about 7k saved still n no debt so I'm not in bad shape but it's still so depressing. Today is my 1st day of a new life being bet free. Is anyone still on this blog?

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      Kristi 6 months ago

      I was a perfect housewife who had an amazing husband who always took care of me financially. Thank GOD he is still my rock and support system, but I know that he will not put up with the addiction for much longer. I have been an avid gambler for 5 years now. We have had to file bacruptcy because of this addiction and I am still doing it. I dream about gambling, I find myself hearing the machines or even smelling the casino air. It's as if it is always on my mind. I can't even begin to tell you how much I have lost over the years, but I am guessing around 300,000. Last night I went and over drafted my account by 2,000. I refuse to live like this anymore. I refuse to let this disease ruin my life. I know it's not going to be easy, but from here on out I am finishe'd with this situation.