How to Shower in a Public Shower Without Fear or Embarrassment
Just get past it?
The best way to handle this issue would be to just "get past it." Unfortunately, that is not a viable option for some people. If you can get over your fear or embarrassment of being seen in the buff, you wouldn't have to worry about this article. But if you are one of the many who prefer to keep their "privates" private, my goal is to help you find a way to participate in the activities that your fear has kept you from. Here are a few tips:
Some of the reasons why people don't want to be seen naked
Although it is not unusual to be embarrassed by your body,iIt isn't embarrassment, it ican simply be modesty. There are people who feel that they don't want to share their nudity with everyone. But more often than not, it is our poor self-image that is not strong enough to support our comfort level in nudity. Whether we are overweight, out of shape, short, tall, thin or not, we find fault with ourselves and assume that others will find it too. In some cases, there are more extensive, underlying reasons to be embarrassed. Many of them are based around physical aberrations. It can be something as mild as a beauty mark or scar or something a bit bigger like an amputee, an ostomy or a mastectomy.
There are people that are embarrassed by what they consider to be imperfections, such as:
- inverted nipples,
- a third nipple
- overly large or small breasts
- large or small genitals
- Too saggy
- unwanted hair
And the list goes on. You name it and there will be someone with a real or perceived reason to choose to cover-up.
Cover it up!
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Practical advice for showering in a public shower
I am not here to lecture you or tell you that everybody is beautiful. That's all well and good and if you are of that opinion, you don't need me. Instead I am here to give you some practical advice!I have spent the past 40 years covering up without having to give up activities that were clearly out of my comfort zone. It started in high school. Those were the days when we had to parade through the girls' locker room naked in order to pick up a towel/bathing suit. After we showered, we had to parade back out and show that we were clean enough to go in the pool. That was a tough one because a cover up was not permitted until after the shower. I had three ways to get around that one. Most days, I got to class very early. I was able to get through the ordeal before too many people came in.If I was unable to get there early, I would hang back and come in late. There were also fewer people at that point. My third method was what I call the "Magic M" This was back in the 70s. About the only way a girl could get out of swimming was if she was menstruating. That meant that if a girl came through the line, fully clothed and said "M" to the teacher, she was automatically excused. Magic! My next encounter with public showers was in a college dorm. And, after that, the health club. I got very adept at gathering all my things in the proper order for a most expedient cover up. Again, timing is crucial. I would watch and pick the less populated times. I would make sure that I had all my gear on me. If I am unable to avoid a crowd, this is what I do.
Steps to avoid being seen naked
- Avoidance always works! Try to arrange your schedule so that you can shower at home.
- Most locker rooms have some private showers. Even if you have to wait for a bit, try to always use those.
- Invest in a good towel wrap, robe or even swim shorts.
- Pack your bag so that you can reach everything quickly and easily that way you won't be standing in the raw while struggling to find your undies.
- If you are not able to get dressed in the shower area, you can get dressed discretely under your robe or a long t-shirt. The trick for that is to remove/add only one item at a time. Don't start on anything else until the previous article of clothing is firmly in place
How not to call attention to yourself
It's very important to remember that people see what you want them to see. There have been many articles on this and magicians are the greatest masters of illusion. You can learn how to call the attention off your naked body by distracting the people around you. Draw their attention elsewhere until you are comfortably covered!
A little subterfuge!
While this may seem like a lot of effort, please keep in mind that once you get in the habit of covering up, you won't believe what you had been missing. There is no longer a reason to avoid the gym, or a trip with joint showers, living in a dorm or living with room-mates. Life is short. You shouldn't have to allow your embarrassment or fear to keep you from enjoying it.
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