How to Have Fun in Bed: 17 Things to Do When You're Bedridden
If you are looking for juicy tips on how to improve your performance in bed or have more fun during your sexual encounters... then, you are on the wrong page. You will not learn anything new here to impress your other half. Sorry!
This article is about how to avoid boredom when you are obliged to be in bed because you are ill.
I Was Bedridden for Several Weeks
Usually, I am quite active, and I prefer to be gallivanting about—going out with friends, seeing new places, going to parties, shopping, swimming, or just cycling in the countryside. However, when I fell suddenly ill, I had to go to the emergency room, where I was advised to undergo surgery as soon as possible. I managed to delay surgery for two weeks since I wanted to be prepared before going into hospital.
As the doctor explained it, it was going to be a small, routine surgery with only a tiny chance of complications, so I packed for a short stay. The day before the surgery, I went to the hospital with a suitcase that my grandmother jokingly said made me look like I was going on a romantic spa trip instead of a surgery.
Two days after the surgery, when I finally woke up from the anesthesia, I realized that things had gone horribly wrong. I had had a major surgery, lost a lot of blood, and almost didn't make it due to a major drop in blood pressure. My short stay suddenly became an extended stay to regain my strength, and even when I was cleared to go back home, I still needed the aid of a nurse.
A month after my surgery, and I was still in bed. I was bored out of my mind, to say the least; perhaps the word that describes it best is frustrating. However, I quickly accepted that I needed to stay in bed to fully recover, and I was able to manage my time quite well. Eventually, I'd say I even enjoyed my time in bed; I was free of most responsibilities, had a lot of time to reflect, and was able to pick up new hobbies. There's always a silver lining!
What to Do When You Are Bedridden
How I Had Fun in Bed
When I first woke up, I couldn’t move at all because I had tubes coming in and out from every which way. Fortunately, I was able to use one hand—enough to hold a book—so for the first week, I just read book after book whenever I was awake.
As I started to gain more ability, I also started to become more interested in looking well, so I started doing my nails and hair while I was in bed. At this time, I did not feel like receiving visits—I had asked the hospital to keep my name anonymous to avoid unexpected visitors. The only people I saw were the hospital staff. I only welcomed visitors when I felt strong enough.
Once I was able to go home, my laptop kept me busy for the remaining weeks. The idea is that now, you have all the time in the world to do whatever interests you.
Here are 17 ideas you can use to pass the time while you stuck in bed:
Reading is one of my favourite pastimes, and having to stay in bed let me read all the books that I always wanted to read but never found the time to. Choose some light reading. Being ill is not the best time to start reading academic books. You will likely fall asleep quite often because of the medicines that you are taking, so it might not be a good idea to read anything complicated. I like Harlequin or Mills & Boons romances. Not only are they an easy read, but they are positive, cheery, and the romantic stories will give you some nice dreams.
2. Do Puzzles
Once you feel more compos mentis, you can start doing some puzzles like Sudoku, a crossword puzzle that uses numbers instead of letters and really challenges the mind. The rules are simple, but completing the puzzles can be quite complicated. No calculations or advanced math is needed. It's all about logic and critical thinking. You can either do the electronic versions or the more traditional pen and paper versions.
This is the time to write that novel you always dreamt of writing. You can also write letters or cards to friends and relatives. If you do not want to post any letters, just write letters to your parents, children, or spouse, and keep them on your night table. Even if they never read the letters, it can be very therapeutic for you to write things that you find difficult to talk to them about.
4. Use a Laptop
If you have one, then use it for accessing the internet from your bed. There, you will find endless hours of fun. Discover funny sites, download music and films, watch videos, chat with friends, meet new people—the options are endless. You can even start learning a foreign language, see old TV re-runs, etc.
5. Shop Online
Nowadays, you can buy almost anything online—from clothes to food.
6. Look for Bargains Online
Find the best prices for your next summer holiday, subscribe to travel companies for their best deals, and search and compare holiday resorts and prices.
7. Watch TV/Movies or Play Video Games
Now is the time to catch up on your favourite shows or to re-watch shows your youth. You can also play some video games.
8. Listen to Music
Take some time to update and organize your Deezer, Spotify, Pandora playlists. Listening to your favorite music can take your mind off of things and allow you to just relax.
9. Knit, Sew, or Do Other Crafts
Whatever craft takes your fancy, you now have the time to do it. No more excuses for not finishing that scarf for your grandmother or that cardigan for your husband. If you are not very creative, you can try mending your clothes. How long have you been walking around with only one button on your cardigan or with your trousers far too long? There are no more excuses now!
10. Do Your Hair, Makeup, and Nails
Indulge in your favourite beauty treatments. Get (or give) a manicure. Use that face mask you never found the time to use. Try on new nail polish. Try new hairstyles. You can be as creative as you want with your look without having to worry too much about what other people will think.
11. Start a Healthy Diet
Being bedridden is one of the best times to start and maintain a healthy diet regimen. If you are in bed, you can only eat what you are served, you cannot pop into the kitchen for a sweet snack every time you feel like having one. Plan your meals in advance, and you will be obliged to eat what is in front of you—not more and not less.
12. Spend Time With Your Family/Friends
Talk and play with your friends and relatives. Take advantage of all the time on your hands and get up to date with the latest news from friends and families. Some telephone companies offer free local calls, so why not take advantage? You can also use Facebook, Yahoo, or Skype to talk to friends outside the country for next to nothing.
You won't be too active, but you can still watch films, read stories, and do puzzles with them while you are in bed. Your children will enjoy reading you a bedtime story, and you will be helping their reading skills. You can also play society games with them. I really encouraged my daughter to spend more time with me when I was recovering in bed, and as a result, our relationship improved a lot.
Catch up on your beauty sleep. Now, you do not need to worry about the clock—rest and sleep as much as you can. Your body needs sleep to recover.
You don't have to dream only while you're asleep. You can ponder and plan the things you will do once you fully recover. Thinking happy thoughts will help you on your way to recovery. Visualize yourself healthy and happy, and very soon, you will be!
15. Organize Your Photos and Documents
If you're like me, your emails, photos, and files are all a clutter. Organizing them now can save you time and headaches in the future.
16. Prepare Gifts for Upcoming Birthdays and Holidays
Plan what gifts you can buy for your friends or family. You don't have to go out and get a last-minute gift again!
17. Stretch or Meditate
Exercise doesn't have to be strenuous. Gentle stretches and guided meditations will keep your blood flowing, keeping your muscles strong and flexible and helping you recover. Over time, prolonged bedrest will actually make you weaker. This is why it is so important to exercise gently. Yoga and meditation were my favorite ways to stay healthy. I actually started exercising my stomach muscles using simple breathing exercises.
My Final Piece of Advice
Make your needs known. Don't assume that others will automatically understand what you need. If you want something, ask for it. Your relatives, caretakers, or friends will be happy to help you recover. Understand your limitations and ask for assistance. Being bedridden is not fun, but with a little help, it can be bearable and even an enjoyable experience.
If you have more ideas about things to do to avoid getting bored while staying in bed, please share them in the comments below. I—as well as other readers—will appreciate any ideas to keep boredom away. :-)
© 2008 Wendy Iturrizaga