How to Have Fun in Bed: 20 Things to Do When You're Bedridden
If you are looking for juicy tips on how to improve your performance in bed or have more fun during your sexual encounters... then, you are on the wrong page. You will not learn anything new here about to impress your other half. Sorry!
This article is about how to avoid boredom when you are obliged to be in bed because you are ill.
Usually I am quite active, and I prefer to be gallivanting about, going out with friends, seeing new places, going to parties, shopping, or just swimming or cycling in the countryside. However, a few weeks ago, I fell suddenly ill. I had to go to the emergency room in the hospital, where I was advised to undergo surgery as soon as possible. I managed to delay surgery for two weeks, as I wanted to have everything ready before going into hospital. As the doctor explained it, it was going to be a small, routine surgery with only a tiny chance of complications.
The day before the surgery I went to hospital with a suitcase that my grandmother jokingly said looked like I was going on a romantic Spa holiday instead of going for surgery.
The surgery took place and only two days later when I finally woke up from the anaesthetics I realised that things had gone horribly wrong; I had had major surgery, lost don’t know how much blood and almost never made it due to my blood pressure shooting down. My programmed short stay in hospital became a long stay and even when I was strong enough to go back home I had to do it with the aid of a nurse.
It has been almost a month now from my surgery, and I am still in bed. It has been boring at times but perhaps the word that describes it best is frustrating. Most of the time though I managed quite well and my time in bed has been a time of rest, reflexion and why not admit it fun!
So How Did I Have Fun In Bed?
The first week, I couldn’t move at all as I had tubes coming in and out from the weirdest places. Fortunately enough I had the use of one hand, which meant that I could hold a book with it.
During the first few days, I just read book after book whenever I was awake. As I started to become more able, I also started to become more interested in looking well, so I started doing my nails and hair while I was in bed. At this time I was not still feeling like receiving visits, I had asked the hospital to keep my name anonymous to avoid unexpected visitors. The only people I saw were the hospital staff. Only when I felt strong enough did I start receiving visits, and then when I went home I started using my laptop. That has kept me busy enough during these weeks of bed rest.
What To Do When You Are Bed Ridden?
1) Read. Reading is one of my favourite pastimes, and being obliged to rest in bed is the best time to indulge in reading all those books that you always wanted to read but never found the time to do. Choose some light reading. Being ill is not the best time to start reading academic books. More than likely you will fall sleep quite often due to the medicines that you are taking so is not a good idea to read anything complicated. For men, action thrillers are a good option. Women will like Harlequin or Mills & Boons romances (despite themselves). Not only they are an easy read, but they are positive, cheery and the romantic stories will give you some nice dreams.
2) Do puzzles. Once you feel more “compos mentis” you can start doing some puzzles like Sudoku - a crossword puzzle that uses numbers instead of letters and seems to be all the rage. The game is easy to learn, for beginners but challenging enough as it is difficult to master. No calculations or advanced math is needed. It's all about logic and critical thinking. You can either do the electronic or the more traditional pen and paper versions.
3) Write. This is the time to write that novel you always dreamt about writing. The time to write letters or cards to friends and relatives. If you do not want to post any letters, just write letters to your parents, children or husband and keep them on your night table. Even if they never read the letters it is very therapeutic for you to write to them all those things that you find difficult to tell them.
4) Use a laptop. If you have one then use it for accessing the internet from your bed. There you will find endless hours of fun. Discover funny sites, download music and films, chat with friends, meet new people… the options are endless. You can even start learning a foreign language, see old TV re-runs, etc
5) Watch your favourite series on DVD collections. Now is the time to get up to date on your favourite series or to re watch the favourite TV series from your youth.
6) Talk to your friends and relatives. Take advantage of all the time on your hands and get up to date with the latest news from friends and families. Some telephone companies offer free local calls so why not take advantage? You can also use hotmail, yahoo or skype to talk to friends outside the country for next to nothing.
7) Knit, sew, or embroider, whatever craft takes your fancy, now you have the time to do it. No more excuses for not finishing that scarf for your grandmother or the cardigan for your husband. If you are not very creative you can just mend your clothes. How long have you been walking around with only one button in your cardigan or with your trousers far too long? There are no more excuses now!
8) Indulge in your favourite beauty treatments. Have a manicure, put on that face mask that you never find the time to do.
9) Listen to your favourite music. You can also take the time to do your Deezer playlists.
10) Play video games.
11) Do your shopping online. Nowadays you can buy almost anything from clothes to food online.
12) Look for bargains online. Find the best prices for your next summer holiday, subscribe to travel companies for their best deals, search and compare holiday resorts facilities and prices.
13) Start a healthy food regime. Being bed ridden is one of the best times to start and maintain a regime. If you are in bed you can only eat what you are served, you can not pop to the kitchen for a sweet snack every time to feel like. You can plan your meals in advance and you will be obliged to eat what is in front of you, not more or less.
14) Spend time with your children. True enough you will not be able to engage in too many activities but you can watch films together, read stories and do puzzles while you are in bed. The children will enjoy reading YOU a bedtime story and you will be helping their reading skills. You can also play society games with them. The time when I was bedridden really encouraged my daughter to spend more time with me, as a result our relationship improved a lot.
15) Sleep. Catch up on your beauty sleep. Now you do not need to worry about the clock, rest and sleep as much as you can. Your body needs it to recover. As you sleep your body actually restores and repairs itself.
16) Dream, not only when you are sleeping but also while you are awake. Bringing happy thoughts to your mind will help you on your way to recovery. Visualize yourself healthy and happy and very soon you will be!
17) Organize your photos, emails, text messages and so on.
18) Prepare your gift lists for Christmas and birthdays.
19) Exercise and Relax. Exercise doesn't have to mean strenuous, potentially damaging activity - it can mean extremely gentle stretches, often practiced whilst listening to guided meditation. After a while being in bed you actually start suffering from not moving enough, you become weaker and weaker the less you move. This is why it is so important to exercise gently without hurting yourself. Consider meditation and gentle stretches to ease body pain. I actually started exercising my tummy just breathing to strengthen stomach muscles.
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20) And finally, make your needs known. Don't assume that others will automatically understand what you need. If you want something ask for it, your relatives, caretakers or friends will be happy to help you recover. Understand your limitations and ask for assistance. Being bed-ridden is not fun but with a little help it can be bearable and even an enjoyable road to full recovery.
If you have more ideas about things to do to avoid getting bored while staying in bed, please write them below under comments. I will appreciate any ideas to keep boredom away :-)
Sanatorium Nursing- Everyday Life at Broomfield Sanatorium, Chelmsford, Essex, England, 1945
© 2008 Wendy Iturrizaga