16 Things That Change After You Reach Your Thirties

Updated on February 24, 2018
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Marianne lives in Scotland. She enjoys researching interesting topics and writing about them.

A couple of years ago, I reached the age of thirty, and I have noticed life start to change. Here is a rundown of changes some of my friends and I have experienced.

1. Hangovers Are Worse

In my early 20s, I never got really bad hangovers. I wasn't ever a massive drinker, but I could overindulge and be more or less fine the next day. Now, if I drink two or three glasses of wine, I inevitably wake up and feel like I need to spend most of the next day in bed. From speaking to friends, I am not alone.

The day after drinking a couple of glasses of wine
The day after drinking a couple of glasses of wine

2. Forget All-Night Parties

I suppose, to be truthful, I have never really been an all-night party kind of girl as I have always enjoyed sleep. However, once upon a time, I would happily stay up until 5 am at a house party—or I might stay up until 1 am and still be productive at work the next day.

Now, most parties I go to end before 11 pm. On the rare occasions I host a party, most of my guests will leave before then, too. There might be one or two guests who try to stay later, and I have to drop heavy hints so they leave. One time we had a guest who seemed to have no intention of leaving even after hints, so I announced that we were going to bed and gave the remaining guest a blanket so he could sleep on the sofa.

3. Forget Clubbing

Nothing could be worse than the idea of going to a club. Clubs are full of smelly, sweaty people, and the toilets are usually a mess. I am sure there are some over-30s who still enjoy clubbing, but for a lot of us, if we go out, we want to be able to sit on a seat. Better to go somewhere where the music isn't too loud. In fact, why go out for a drink when you can go for a meal at a restaurant. That is an enjoyable night without blaring music and everyone can be home in bed by 10 pm.

4. Your Metabolism Slows Down

Up until about the age of 30, I could eat whatever I wanted, not exercise much, and stay slim. (I know this is not true of everyone.) Now, my metabolism has definitely slowed down now, and there are definite signs that I need to think about what I eat a little.

5. You Have No Idea What Music Is in the Charts

When I was growing up in the 90s and early 2000s, Top of the Pops would be on the telly, and my parents would slag off the pop music of the day. They would go on about how there was no melody or rhythm in modern music, unlike in the 1970s, of course.

Now, if I listen to (most) music in the charts, I think exactly the same thing, although, to be honest, I have a very limited knowledge of modern popular music, and I couldn't tell you much about what is currently in the charts.

6. Grey Hair or Hair Loss

Luckily, this hasn't happened to me yet, but it has happened to people I know.

A lot of men my age seem to have receding hairlines, and some are almost bald.

It's hard to know how many people are starting to get grey hair as I imagine a lot of those people use hair dye.

7. Everyone Gets Married and Has Children

As you hit thirty, more and more people you know will get married and have children.

There might start to even be the odd divorce.

8. Everyone Asks You When You Are Going to Get Married and Have Children

If you're not in a relationship, expect to be asked if you have met anyone.

If you are in a relationship, expect to be asked when you are going to get married and have children. I fall into this category, and my partner and I are regularly asked, by friends and family, when we are going to get married and/or have children.

If we got married, I am sure we would hear about children even more, and if I had one child, I expect everyone would ask if we are planning a sibling. And so on.

Marriage?
Marriage?

9. If You Are Female, You are Constantly Reminded About Your Fertility

Related to the above, it seems that various newspapers, social media outlets, relatives, etc. like to remind you that time is ticking. Nevermind if you don't have a partner, or can't really afford children, or don't really want them.

If anyone reading this doesn't know, male fertility declines too. It's not only a female problem.

10. You Want to Be ID'ed

When I was in my twenties, I was nearly always ID'ed, and it was annoying. I have a young looking face. I occasionally still get ID'ed sometimes but less often. I can't help feeling slightly sad that I am definitely starting to look above the age of 25.

11. It's Much More Effort to Keep in Touch With Friends

When I was in my 20s, keeping in touch with friends seemed much easier. Now, I think because of marriages, babies, and nearly everyone working full-time, it seems to take that much more organising. I think part of this is because more people are in relationships. I am definitely guilty of making much less effort to organise events since I have been in a relationship as I have my partner for company. Meeting with anyone who has children is also usually a hundred times more difficult for obvious reasons.

12. You Go Out Less

After a full day, I am often tired and want nothing more than to go home and watch Netflix like a zombie, before sleeping. Going out just seems too much effort.

13. If you go to Visit Friends you Hope for a Proper Bed

Remember in your twenties when you went to stay with friends and crashed in sleeping bags on the floor, or made a bed out of sofa cushions? I even know a guy who happily lived on a sofa for over a year in his twenties. Now, proper comfy beds seem much more important. I have started seriously worrying about whether I will ever be able to afford a flat with a guest room.

14. Pressure

Suddenly things that didn't matter much in your twenties seem much more real and important. Do I need to be a proper adult?

  • Should I worry about my pension?
  • Am I ever going to be able to retire?
  • Am I ever going to be able to afford to buy a house?
  • Should I put more effort into my career?
  • If I have children will I be able to afford them?
  • Will children impact my career?

In my twenties, these seemed like things that would sort themselves out. I assumed in the future I would grow up properly and somehow magically become a real adult. Now, it seems like maybe the future is here, and the time to think about these things is now.

Is it time I need to start having investments, and planning for my retirement?
Is it time I need to start having investments, and planning for my retirement?

15. You Are Not Invincible

I am not sure I properly realised this in my twenties, but I live a very privileged lucky life, compared to most people on the planet. I knew bad things happened in the world, but for the most part, those were things that happened to other people. Recently, though, I have had more experience of losing people and am less able to assume things won't impact me. Experiences of loss obviously happen to some people earlier in life, but by the time you are thirty, they will have happened to most people.

16. You Stop Caring About Pointless Insecurites

When I was in my twenties (and teens), I had a lot of stupid insecurities. Looking back, most of these were ridiculous and pointless. It's not worth spending your time worrying what others think about you or endlessly comparing yourself to them. I'm not saying I never do this now, but I do it far less.

Mainly for this reason: life in my thirties is better overall.

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      • kenneth avery profile image

        Kenneth Avery 

        5 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

        Hi, Marianne -- you are welcome. I especially liked the segment (of your hub) about the vast difference between my young and stupid days of drinking and the older days when I always took longer to get over a binge.

        But in 1990, and I credit God for this, I just told Him the truth---I cannot stand this pain and the thought of having to grow old so . . .long story short, I haven't touched a drop since, but do not think that I am some self-righteous zealot. I am not. I just know, like tobacco, these chemicals couldn't be good for me. So why do it?

        Thank you, Marianne, for such an in-depth hub. Please keep up the great work.

      • daydreams profile imageAUTHOR

        Marianne Sherret 

        5 months ago from Scotland, UK

        Thank you for the compliment. Glad you liked it.

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        Kenneth Avery 

        5 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

        Wow, Marianne -- I am impressed not only at the professional style of your writing, but you nailed (to the letter), every thing and notion that has happened to me--may I suggest a follow-up for YOU to write, and the suggested title: "Growing Old: God's Way to Point You to Your Bed" or something along those lines.

        Please keep up your writing. You are Very Good.

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        Thelma Alberts 

        7 months ago from Germany

        Hello Marianne. You have a mature mind now and noticed what has changed in your life. It is not bad at all to be in the 30´s. Life is full of changes but we have to accept it no matter what. Just stay positive. Thanks for sharing.

        BTW, Happy New Year!

      • Rochelle Frank profile image

        Rochelle Frank 

        7 months ago from California Gold Country

        Dear Marianne,

        Welcome to Maturity.

        You are not only chronologically mature, your attitude and realizations show that you are mentally mature. Some people never get it.

        Some people say life begins at forty-- but I think you have a head start and lots of possibilities ahead of you. You sound very wise for your (young) age.

        I enjoyed your treatise.

        P.S. I always shop at RiteAid when I buy a bottle of wine-- they always ask for an ID no matter what age you are.

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