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How I Have Dealt With PMDD Naturally

Updated on March 03, 2017
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Three cheers for lady hormones! If it's leading up to "that time" of the month for you, then you may possibly be referring to them as horMOANS.

In all seriousness, if the days or even weeks leading up to your period feel like a nightmare and go beyond what the average woman experiences, you might have Pre-Menstural Dysphoric Disorder, or PMDD.

There are many resources out there on the Internet about PMDD, but if you're like me then you find it even more valuable to read about someone else's personal account of an issue you're dealing with yourself. So come along for the ride. My article is a bit on the long side, but my hope is that my experience may help you in some way. There are of course many other ways to help ease PMDD, but these are the specific steps I've taken that helped dramatically.

What Is PMDD?

Pre-menstrual Dysphoric Disorder has recently been recognized officially as a psychological disorder. If you experience five or more of the first 10 symptoms during two weeks or less leading up to your period, and find that the symptoms prevent or inhibit you from functioning in your day to day activities, then you most likely suffer with PMDD. However, as with any health issue it is always important to see your doctor!

  • Depressed mood
  • Irritable and angry
  • Suicidal
  • Poor concentration
  • Anxious
  • Easily confused
  • Low energy
  • Generally feeling out of control
  • Food cravings and/or an increased appetite
  • Can't sleep or desire to sleep too much
  • Sore breasts
  • Bloating
  • Diarrhea
  • Nausea
  • Headache
  • Muscle Pain

When my PMDD was at its worst, several years ago, my personal experiences each month would include crying non-stop for hours until I couldn't open my eyes properly, snapping at my boyfriend and taking things extremely personally, feeling completely hopeless and lost, thoughts of wanting to just end my life because of how I was feeling, obsessing over any problems in my relationship with my boyfriend, not able to concentrate at work, scattered thoughts, and feelings of confusion.

The very good news is that since working on all kinds of aspects of my life associated with my mental and physical health, it often doesn't feel like I have PMDD anymore . . . and maybe I don't.

Available Treatments

When I consulted my doctor in regards to my PMDD, she suggested I go on anti-depressants. For someone who has been on medication for her mental state before, the idea of having to deal with the side-effects associated with anti-depressants just made me feel all the more upset.

So I decided I wanted to treat my PMDD naturally, without medication.

Perhaps for some of you, medication may be necessary and there is absolutely nothing wrong with making that choice. We are all different.

Natural Steps to Treat PMDD

1. Be Conscious of What You Eat Without Obsessing

I've gone through all kinds of food phases: low carb, high "good fat", no gluten. Yes, it is absolutely important to be conscious of what you eat, but don't let it take away from the joy and quality of your life!

These days I eat mostly vegan foods because of my own personal beliefs. This has also had a positive impact on my general health, including my PMDD, because foods like dairy and meat can actually make PMDD and menstrual cramping much worse.

You don't have to go vegan—please don't stress about that. Simply cutting back on meat and dairy will help a lot though. Have fun with trying out vegetarian and vegan foods or cooking them at home. You will find that the range of fruits, vegetables, nuts, and legumes opens up another world of eating and you may find that you don't need to rely on meat and dairy as much.

Through my own experimenting and research, I've created these lists below. These lists keep in mind the importance of protein, iron, and fibre. These considerations are especially important if you are cutting back on meat and dairy, or taking them out all together.

Eat lots of these:

  • All kinds of fruits, especially when in season. The fibre and natural sugars will keep you satisfied and not craving processed sweets. Berries in particular pack a punch with vitamins and feel good nutrients.
  • Vegetables, especially beets, sweet potato, spinach, kale, carrots, tomatoes (I know it's a fruit but yeah here it is sorry), cauliflower, capsicum, broccoli, peas, edamame (soy beans)
  • Nuts, especially macadamia, cashews, almonds, peanuts.
  • Avocados. Yes, I didn't put them in with nuts or fruit because I don't know where they belong! And also, they deserves their own section because they are that good for you. Seriously. They have oodles of good fats in them which are very important for your mental health.
  • Chia seeds for protein and fibre.
  • Quinoa for protein, iron, fibre and magnesium.
  • Brown rice.
  • Sauces and flavourings: tamari, pickled vegetables (without added sugar), vinegar, turmeric, ginger, miso paste, or soup.
  • Goji berries for their high iron content, immune boosting properties and complex carb goodness.
  • Beautiful fresh herbs like coriander, basil and thyme.

Eat some of these:

  • Wholegrain breads like dark rye, pure wholemeal, or bonus points if you can have either of those as a sourdough.
  • Pastas or noodles made with buckwheat or pure wholemeal flour.
  • Tofu.
  • Dried fruits like dates, sultanas, apricots, and mangos.
  • Chickpeas.
  • Lentils.
  • Beans.
  • Cacao powder.

Eat minimally or cut out if you feel you can:

  • Meat.
  • Dairy and eggs.
  • Coffee and highly caffeinated drinks (these drain your adrenals making you more prone to tiredness, a PMDD symptom).
  • Sugary drinks and sodas.
  • Anything very high in sugar.
  • Fried foods.
  • White bread and pasta.

Let's talk about fat.

Don't get roped in to the myth of buying everything labeled as "fat-free," or thinking that lowering your fat intake is a healthy choice. By all means, cut down on "bad" fatty foods like fried donuts, cheesy, meaty, take-away pizzas, fried chicken, and such. But your body actually needs fat to survive! Eating a low-fat diet can also increase the likelihood of experiencing depression. So try increasing the amount of "good" fats you consume, such as avocados, nuts, olive oil, and natural yoghurt.

A few tips:

  • Try to replace milk chocolate with dark chocolate that has 60% or more cocoa content. This means you get way more benefits of the cocoa (yes, cocoa is very good for you) and there will be less sugar too.
  • I have also found that checking out blogs online which focus on healthy eating and cooking are quite helpful. Better yet, why not try Pinterest? You can search for hundreds of healthy recipes and meal ideas and then pin (bookmark) for later reference. I find that the beautiful photography of all the different food ideas can really keep your motivation going!
  • If you eat meat, it is recommended to cut back to 4 meals per week and to keep it lean (of course!).
  • Please, please, please still have fun with your food! Splurge a couple of times a week on a meal or treat you enjoy. This is just as important as generally being conscious of what you eat.
  • Give all kinds of cuisines a go, you will be surprised about how many healthy and vegetarian options each of these have: Chinese, Japanese, Indian, Lebanese, Turkish, Persian, Italian, Greek, Mexican, Ethiopian . . . you name it, baby.

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2. Move That Sweet Body of Yours

We were born to use these bodies we find ourselves in. Sitting all day in chairs and trains and cars is just not natural.

Regular exercise has been scientifically proven to actually reduce symptoms of depression and women who do keep up some kind of exercise routine seem to have less complaints about their monthly cycle. I am living proof of this. When I don't keep active, I pay for it.

The key here though is to choose an exercise activity you enjoy. Obvious, I know, but true! It's also important to not push yourself too hard either, especially if you haven't exercised for a while. Let it build up over a couple of months before doing anything too intense.

Here are some fun exercise ideas:

  • brisk walking
  • aerobic class (or at home by watching on youtube)
  • any kind of dance class like hip hop, jazz ballet, belly dancing (or again you can do this from home by watching youtube videos)
  • bush walking
  • hula hooping
  • turning on music really loud and dancing like a mad woman at home
  • no lights no lycra dance sessions
  • bike riding
  • trampolining
  • yoga
  • rollerblading
  • gymnastics
  • jogging
  • swimming
  • partner dance classes (like rock and roll, swing, salsa....you don't have to take anyone either as there will usually be single people there)
  • pole dancing classes
  • burlesque dancing classes
  • pilates
  • martial arts
  • kick boxing
  • strength training
  • intense gardening, sweeping, vacuuming (for an hour or so)

With a list as long as that, you don't really have much of an excuse, especially considering lots of them are for free. See if you can do an activity like one (or many) of the above at least 2 to 3 times per week.

Also just as importantly, aim to go for a half hour walk every single day. Whether this is part of your commute to work or something you do after dinner, just do it.*

*Not sponsored by Nike. A girl can dream though.

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3. Address Any Psychological Issues

Even though I can be quite bubbly and happy, I'm also a naturally depressive and anxious person at times.

Luckily, I have always been a very introspective person so am constantly taking steps to improve the way I think and react. I've also become my own hero by stopping myself from slipping in to that dark place I used to so often go to.

As with lots of people, I had a very difficult childhood and have also faced incredibly traumatic experiences in my adult life. It has taken many years of therapy and reading and self-inquiry and nights screaming at the moon (yes, that's happened) . . . but I feel that thanks to my commitment to addressing my mental health issues, I have gotten to a much better place and my PMDD has taken the back seat.

I recommend finding a good therapist, someone you feel comfortable with and who provides honest but supportive feedback. This might take a bit of shopping around but it is absolutely worth it. Some countries also provide financial help in covering the costs of seeing a mental health specialist, so don't let money problems hinder your quest.

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4. Be Social

Every time I make the effort to see a girlfriend, I feel so fulfilled and happy. There is something very unique about girl-to-girl conversation and interaction. There is a mutual understanding and freedom to talk about how we're feeling without the worry of coming across as "too much."

If you're in a relationship it's especially important to not rely on your partner entirely, be it for social, venting or advice purposes, even if he or she is supportive and doesn't complain. It gives you both some space and independence, as you don't want to be a couple so completely enmeshed that they can't remember who they were before they got together.

In this same vein, it's also important to give your partner the room to socialise with their own friends or spend time recharging on their own.

If you're single, being social is just as important (if not more so). To be able to laugh and cry with people you trust is pure nourishment for the soul.

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5. If You're in a Relationship, Be Open About Your PMDD

Does your love know about your PMDD? Have a talk with them if you haven't yet. It's comforting to feel like you aren't alone in this monthly struggle and it will also help your partner feel less hurt or perplexed by your changing moods and frustrations.

It's also important to understand that there may be times when they have their own issues to deal with and can't always be there for you. Don't forget to check in with them and ask how they are. It's easy to get caught up in our symptoms and forget that other people suffer too.

I've actually put together a separate article which goes in to great deal about being in a relationship when you have PMDD, so feel free to pop over and learn from my mistakes!

6. Treat Yourself!

This one is easy: Do something at least once a week by yourself that you enjoy! Use this time to reconnect with who you are and put everyone else's needs aside for just an hour or so (or more if possible!).

Activities could include having a massage, going window shopping, visiting an art exhibition, taking a long hot bath, reading a book in a sunny spot in your local park, having a special breakfast/lunch/dinner out at a restaurant (don't be afraid to eat in a cafe or restaurant by yourself!), watch a movie, meditate, bake . . . whatever makes you happy.

7. Last But Not Least, Get Some Shut-Eye

I have a love affair with my bed, that is if I'm in a good phase of sleeping. I love sleep and dreams and feeling all cosy. But sometimes my bed can feel like a rectangle of sadness if my PMDD is playing up and taking away my ability to sleep properly.

Not sleeping properly can make you feel more aggravated, tired (duh), confused, and depressed. See if you can try some of my tips below to avoid this.

  • Take a high dose magnesium supplement an hour before you go to bed.
  • Avoid television and mobile/computer screens after 9 p.m. as the light emitted from these really mess with your sleep patterns.
  • Finish your nightly meal by 7 p.m.
  • Be tucked up in bed by 10 p.m., if you can
  • When trying to fall asleep, take slow deep breaths, counting backwards with each breath. I start at 60 and count down with each slow exhale. This gives your brain something to concentrate on while relaxing your entire body.
  • Wear some comfortable ear plugs. Can I emphasise comfortable? They need to be ones that mold to the shape of your ear canal. Once you put these babies in, you will feel so relaxed by the complete silence. It makes me feel like I'm in a safe little pod with no outside noises to frustrate me!
  • Don't have a clock visible! Counting how many hours of sleep you have left will only make you feel more anxious.

I Could Go On . . .

. . . and on about other changes I have been making, but I don't want you to feel bombarded. You will find little things to change along the way too, it all comes naturally when you start altering your life in a positive way.

Be patient with your new lifestyle, as your PMDD won't just disappear instantly (if only). It took a few months of me following through with my above suggestions before I saw a reduction in my monthly symptoms. But as I mentioned earlier, I can now safely say that my PMDD is pretty much in the past. This has however taken a couple of years of shifting, learning and being aware.

I truly do hope this can help. Sending you oceans of love on your journey.

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      **THANK YOU AND SORRY**

      So when I wrote this article, I never expected it to have such a positive response. I just wrote it with the hope of helping a couple of people and then I left it where it was without checking any of the comments.

      I'm so sorry for all the lovely people who wrote comments or asked questions and it's taken me this long to approve and respond!

      Thank you to everyone who took the time to write, I appreciate you all and hope that life is filled with more ease and love than when you first wrote.

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Oh lady, I hope you're doing okay, I'm so sorry you lost a relationship over it. I have faith that life is looking much brighter since you last posted :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      You're so welcome Stacey!

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Wow what a journey you've been on, can totally relate to how horrible it is to feel out of control and also not wanting to just numb it all with medications (though medication is effective for some people!). I know it's a damn long time ago, but how are you finding it all now?

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Wow that sounds frustrating. I don't know too much about water retention, but I do know that foods high in potassium are great for easing water retention. These foods include bananas, avocados and coconut water. Let me know how you're going with it all :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      It's so true, our treatment needs to be balanced and everything helps :) lots of love to you xx

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      you're welcome Tammy :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Wow you sounds like you're doing really well! Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge too xx

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      That's excellent! I find that too :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      I am so so sorry for not replying sooner, I kind of dropped the ball before realising how many people found this article helpful! What a tender and loving soul you are, she is a lucky woman. I truly hope things have picked up since you last posted.

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      I'm so sorry you're still experiencing PMDD symptoms despite doing your best to look after yourself. I truly hope you've found a good doctor or plan since you posted, take care xx

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Stella I'm so sorry for an incredibly late reply. I stopped checking my hubpages because I didn't realise so many people reacted to my article!

      Anyway, I hope life is looking up for you these days and there is NEVER any shame in trying medication or birth control. We are all different and react to different treatments. Let me know how you're going and what has helped :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      It's scary how similar we all are isn't it Jackie? Well...not scary....comforting actually :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      It's my pleasure Claire! It's so helpful to not feel alone, take care xx

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Oh Nicole, I hope you've found seeing a counsellor helpful. I know it's been a long time since you posted but please let me know how you're getting along :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Kathleen you make a very good point! I've read many books on this topic and wondered if I have BPD myself. I've never been diagnosed with it however I have shown signs of it. With self care, therapy and getting to know myself better I'm quite sure I don't have BPD and am feeling much better these days.

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      That's so excellent Tej, really glad you've found a plan that works well for you :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Yeah I really can't believe how it's still an "unknown" to many doctors! With time it will improve I'm sure.

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      So kind of you to say, Wilma :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      You're very welcome Dale! Haha yeah I never like to assume the gender of someone's partner ;)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Oh Lindsey, I can relate to that feeling of doing all of the "right" things but still struggling. While PMDD isn't a big issue for me anymore, I still have health issues which perplex me even though I'm completely "healthy" on paper. I know it's a long time ago since you wrote, but I hope you've been able to go to see a doctor and have another opinion. Let me know how you're going :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Bless you too and am so happy you have such a patient and understanding husband. I hope things have brightened for you since you wrote your thoughtful comment :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      I'm so glad you've found my story helpful, I never thought it could make such a difference for people. I'm sure your babies will be so happy to see their mama looking after herself.

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Hehe your new hero, you're too kind! I think you will find that you're your own hero when you start healing yourself. Let me know how you're getting along :)

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Wow nice one! Yeah some people can be quite sensitive to dairy, so glad you've found it helpful.

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Oh my, what beautiful words, thank you so much Priscilla! Keep on shining through these dark times we face xx

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      violet-femme 2 weeks ago from Australia

      Ahh yes, it's a shame that doctors can so often make us feel dismissed in this way. Let me know how you're getting along on your herbal supplements. Maybe it could be worth seeing another doctor to have a second opinion?

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      PMDD Sufferer 6 weeks ago

      After googling my many symptoms, PMDD pops up, I do a little research only to find that there is an issue associated with my monthly cycle. After being on Cipralex (anti-depressant) for 6 years and 40 lb weight gain I decide to taper off, with success I might add or so I thought. After 4-5 months symptoms start back up, but this time I notice the symptoms are associated only around my period, then after a couple of days of my period starting the symptoms disappear almost within a couple of hours. The rage, outbursts, depression, crying episodes, feeling of being out of control, sadness, feeling blah and more are unbearable. If this keeps up I will lose my husband and my job. I head back to my doctor, only for her to say "go back on your anti-depressant" Why is a doctors solution always a bandaid solution? Why don't they dig deeper to find out what the problem is? when I mentioned to my doctor that I didn't want to go back on the anti-depressant due to the weight gain, she told me to have will power, and skip the dessert table.....seriously, she said that. After doing some more research, I have decided to try some herbal supplements and vitamins to see if this alleviates the symptoms.......fingers crossed!!

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      Priscilla 6 weeks ago

      There is so much love in this post! Thank you!

      You are a soothing ocean of hope to all of us who are joyful girls whose lives come crushing down every month. Thank you, beautiful soul. I must say I laughed as I clicked on this article...my demeanor looked identical to the photograph above!! Oh my! The article was super helpful!

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      Josie 2 months ago

      I am so shocked two weeks ago I went raw vegan and now I got my period and for the first time I feel really good . I always been in a very depressive state before my period but now I did not notice anything until it arrived! So I am happy that I made the choice to become vegan!

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      Lunden 2 months ago

      I could cry. I am so glad that I came across your post. SO GLAD. I've been struggling with depression for what feels like my whole life, I noticed symptoms when I was only 10 ( is that even possible?) Anyway, I was recently diagnosed with PMDD, which feels like a weight lifted off my shoulders to actually know what it is I'm dealing with, and to know I'm not alone. But, as someone who is strongly against antidepressants due to past experiences, I felt hopeless reading some of the treatment options for PMDD, until I came across your post! You've inspired me. I think you're my new hero! Thank you.

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      Sara 3 months ago

      I can't believe it. I'm so thankful for finding your story. My poor babies have been dealing with a werewolf once every month and a half (my cycle is 40 days long) and I had no idea...it felt similar to my postpartum depression, but at times, much much worse (add kids to the mix and my stress level skyrockets). I'm excited to slowly start making theses changes, starting with a hike outside with the kiddos tomorrow. Even just the validation and knowledge that I'm not crazy is enough to make me feel better already. Thank you. Much love to all of you ladies.

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      leefor2 4 months ago

      What a blessing to have found your blog.

      I don't socialize about my personal well being with anyone, and to find that I am not alone, well, you can imagine my relief. EVery symptom is to the 'T' of what I go through and to find that this CAN be if not resolved but maintained NATURALLY is HUGE for me because I try so hard to stay away from medication, grant it if one's survival is by medication then I am very thrilled that meds do work for them, but for me there are always severe side effects. Thank you for posting this information for many, which I wasn't aware of, seem to go through this horrid part of being a woman. I feel like there is a light at the end of this 'hormonal tunnel' and I begin to live again!! actually wear a true smile, not a mask, and not take everything to heart as I do. My relationship with my Husband can improve, because I'm blessed with a man who deserves better, He has been so patient. Thank you dear heart, and I pray that your well being is continuing to improve. God Bless.

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      Lindsey 5 months ago

      I'm so happy I came across this blog post and thread. I have struggled with period issues for YEARS (at least 15) and never understood what was wrong with me. I just found out about PMDD and I am floored. This is exactly me. You are exactly me. (And I love that you had a Golden Girls photo in there! I love those gals!) I really appreciate your blog as I have become more aware and tend to be more homeopathic over the last several years, and everything you listed, I do. I eat super healthy, I exercise regularly, I make time for myself and do nice things for myself often, I have dear friends who I can confide in but my boyfriend and I are also best friends, my calendar is always busy with work or fun things, I get a full night sleep almost every night, I eat tons of avocados! I typically prefer to use food as medicine, but I feel at a loss. It's a conversation to have with my doctor, but maybe I need meds to wrangle this thing. I don't know man..it's really tough though. I am grateful to know there are people out there who get it. Thank you.

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      Dale 6 months ago

      Thank you so much! I didn't even know what PMDD was until an hour ago and you've already given me hope for the thing that I feel has plagued me for years.

      Due to my incredible sensitivity to medication I'm very scared of taking anti depressants as most meds make me more than a little crazy.

      I really don't know what to do with myself almost 2 weeks of 4 and you've given me hope that it doesn't have to be like that.

      I also appreciate the advice for partners (and for you not assuming that said partner will be male :p ).

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      Wilma Henry 8 months ago from Kentucky

      Thank you for this lifeline of hope for all who suffer from PMDD each and every month. Your natural approach to relief is so much better than what most physicians offer.

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      Jessica 10 months ago

      Thank you for sharing these tips, I'm shocked at how many people deal with this disease and yet when I try to talk to my Doctor I get a deer in headlights look. Have a blessed day.

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      Tej 12 months ago

      Hello ladies!! I have been suffering from PMDD since the onset of my period at age 12!! I was just diagnosed with it 2 years ago at age 31! This condition is horrible, and I can relate to all of you and your experiences about the uncontrolled rage, emotional eruptions, depression and despair! With that in mind, I thought I would share my experience with the treatment of this condition. So, for anyone who is concerned about taking BC, my gyn did tell me that there is no cure, however, she did put me on BC, Tri-Legest Fe, and my PMDD symptoms started to slowly disappear. A few months later, I was also put on 50 mg. of Sertaline (generic form of Zoloft) and between that and the BC, my PMDD has completely disappeared. I no longer experience the crazy emotional reactions that I used to have before taking these medicines. In addition, I did not experience any crazy side effects from the birth control. I did experience extreme drowsiness the first week of the Sertaline, but after that, I also did not experience any major side effects. So, for anyone who is willing to try, perhaps a form of BC along with an anti-depressant may help to alleviate your symptoms...2 years and still going strong! :o) Good luck to you ladies!!

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      Kathleen 19 months ago

      Thank you for an informative post.

      In response to your quote below, are you sure you do not have Borderline Personality Disorder, which is actually being exacerbated by PMDD?

      As with lots of people, I had a very difficult childhood. Later when I was 19 I went to group therapy and was heavily medicated to help alleviate my desire to end my life. I addressed a few issues at that time and thought "okay so that's what was wrong" and plodded on with my life.

      But I kept having bad relationship after bad relationship, with me always becoming overly clingy and losing my entire essence as a person.

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      Nicole 19 months ago

      Gosh, I feel like we are the same person. I am positive I have pmdd, and need to see a counselor about MY mommy issues! Thank you for this, it has helped me to not feel so alone.

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      Claire 20 months ago

      I thought I was alone in this. That there was something really wrong with me. And I didn't want to go on antidepressants again. I will take a proactive roll in alleviating my symptoms from now on. I have so much more hope now.

      Thank you so much.

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      Jackie Aguliera 20 months ago

      As I read your article I couldn't stop saying this is me, this is me. I was just diagnosed with PMDD And like a lot of women I want to take other routes than going on medication. Thank you so much for your blog.

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      Stella 21 months ago

      Well. When my period began at 13 I knew something was wrong. Extreme bouts of rage, severe depression, self loathing, suicidal thinking etc. The pain was also unbearable. At times I would leave school, in so much pain I could almost puke. I thought maybe it was normal to feel this way. I found out it wasn't much later on in life, after a painful breakup and a near fatal suicide attempt. I was raging so hard on my boyfriend at the time, but I had no awareness of this until the damage was done well after. This mixed with a few other issues, including a diganosis of BPD- I was a monster and didn't even know it. I got into therapy. A doctor kindly expressed to me that I have PMDD. I always knew something was 'wrong' but what to call it? The doctors blamed it on teenage puberty back then. But I'm 28 now. That excuse would no longer suffice.

      I have an aversion to pharmaceutical meds, especially birth control. I was concerned that because my hormones were already fucked- Why would I take the chance to possibly make them worse? Then a few months ago I realized that it was a matter of life or death for me. Why? Because I was literally tearing myself apart and severely suicidal 2 weeks out of every month. It was pure hell. I got on the birth control. A month later, relief. I was shocked at how "normal" I felt. I raged on facebook about it- "Oh so this is what a normal period feels like? You bitches had it made this whole time!" (Pardon the language it's meant in gest).

      Well here I am searching PMDD online because my other BC stopped working, so I switched to another one and blamo....It's creeping up again. The severe irritability and anger. I've been in therapy so I'm able to for the most part redirect the attention, and not take it out on others. That is a huge stride. But as you know I'm sure, it's hard as hell. I want to rip things apart. I want to eat all the chocolate in the world. Ugh.

      Thanks for posting this blog. It means alot to me to know there are others who know what its like. I also admire you handling it naturally. I tried for so long and it was difficult as hell. So theres props to that. No one knows what this is like except for those of us who suffer with it. Therapy helped me quite a bit but it does not erase the symptoms.

      If anyone reading this is on the fence about BC- Try it. It changed my life for a few months before it stopped working. It gave me hope to keep going.

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      Nic from LivingSafe.com.au 21 months ago

      I am an organic vegetarian with severe PPDD and your article was honest and wonderfully written to encourage women to do all they can naturally to help themselves deal with this debilitating imbalance. Well done

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      Hellbent 22 months ago

      Mine went away for 6 months. Just vanished. I didn't do anything differently. It was bliss. Now I know what life is like for normal women. 3 days to a week of mild discomfort that is completely manageable. Now it is back, so I have a week of normal in about 6. I don't have regular periods so it can go on for months. I have seen 3 specialists and they clearly think I am a whingy woman complaining about something that is perfectly normal. I don't think they even believe me. I ask about pmdd and they just dismiss it and say they don't know much about it. I have tried all of the above tips and supplements and nothing changed it. I wish I knew why it went away. Only diazepam relieves the worst symptoms. Oh well it was nice while it lasted. I will look into chinese medicine, homeopathy and tryptophan next.

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      Justin Chipkin 22 months ago

      All of you beautiful, strong women! So courageous. Thank you for opening my mind to your trials.

      I stumbled onto this page searching for answers to ease my ladie's terrible monthly symptoms including but not limited to the entire checklist you mention in the beginning of the article.

      I have held her through the tears and confusion not knowing what to do or say for fear of making the pain worse. All of the irrational thought and rage directed at me or someone else...I have been blaming myself but thanks to all of you I know now that neither of us are to blame and best of all there is a path towards a solution.

      She is hours to days before her period, so she's experiencing the worst of it as I submit this to you. It's so bad this month that she took off in the middle of the night after thinking I don't care about how she's feeling no matter how many times I've explained to her that I do.... I know where she is and she's safe but I worry about her. How do I confront this?

      I am posting because she does not know of PMDD but it all makes sense. She has not been diagnosed but I truly believe this is why she is the way she is. How do I handle this situation? Help me please! I love her more than anything and I want to do this right.

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      Strawberry 22 months ago

      I forgot to add that I think my well balanced vegan diet is really helping too xx

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      Strawberry 22 months ago

      Hi, just found this. Really uplifting to find someone who has managed to deal with PMDD naturally. I'm making progress in that direction, with exercise (yoga/running), very little caffeine (affects mineral take-up & hormone levels), supplements and counselling/self development. The thing that's made the biggest difference is meditating regularly, which has both given me new thinking skills and changed my outlook. I went on an 8 week Mindfulness based cognitive therapy course, which was great.

      I have been treated by a herbalist. In case it's of any use to anyone I'll list a few supplements that I've found useful:

      Tryptophan -I use this instead of an SSRI; it doesn't have the side effects and works in a different way so you can just take it when you need it.

      Vitamins & Minerals (esp B6 (liquid version so better absorbed), magnesium, potassium, zinc).

      Agnus Castus/Vitex-I used to use this, has a regulatory effect, reduced breast pain.

      Rhodiola -I've found this very good for increasing energy during the sluggish days.

      Other: Dong Quai, Ashwagandha, Schisandra.

      Evening Primrose oil has never worked for me, and newer evidence questions its efficacy. (How many times have well-meaning people told me to try this after hearing I suffer from PMS/PMDD?)

      I still use Diazapam very occasionally as a back up, for example when I know I have to do something stressful while I have symptoms. It has literally been a lifesaver in the past. There is some research around the role of GABA (neurotransmitter) in PMS/PMDD, and Diazapam also affects GABA function which may be why it's so helpful. I am currently looking into supplements to increase GABA function, and will re-post if I find anything that works.

      I'm also planning to see a respected Chinese herbalist who specialises in women's hormones.

      Thanks for writing this blog, and to all the people who have shared their experiences xx

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      Tammy 2 years ago

      Thank. You.

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      Britney 2 years ago

      I also deal with every symptom. I just learned about this yesterday!! 2 weeks ago a girlfriend of mine mentioned zinc. I haven't started taking anything yet....

      I have been a vegan for 1 year, but not just for health reasons. I have realized that it has helped me though. I take vitamin D and B12

      (important for vegans and PMDD folks) just need to get on top of the other things and work out a bit more.

      This has been very very scary for me for about 3 years now.... Really intense suicidal thoughts, and even scary thoughts from my past (more details to that) anyway I do have all the other fun stuff to come with it, and it stinks when you are raising a child (agreeing with moms above)

      Also, I am receiving healing prayer and my friends and fiancé are great listeners :) I encourage all who deal with PMDD, even if your doing a little better or perfect, to find people you trust to talk to and possibly a professional as well!

      Thank you so so much for this article! So much love and blessings over you.

      I've tried for so long to just treat my stuff spiritually and forgetting about the practical.

      It was really revealed to me today that both are extremely important.

      I'll be thinking of all the women on her and not on her in prayers from now on, cause this stuff isn't a joke at all!!!

      Stay happy and healthy and again thank you so much for sharing information!

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      Ponchita 2 years ago

      Thanks so much for the wonderfully written article. I have suffer from PMDD for many years. I couldn't agree with you more, that taking care of your health is key to living with this disorder. Please

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      amy 2 years ago

      Do you have any tips for water retention I get it so bad in my face and stomach that I look like I have gained 20 pounds!! my eyelids get swollen I get huge dark circles under my eyes and I get swollen gums too. i tried diurex and it doesn't work for me. I have tried drinking a lot of water every day , herbal teas and exercise. the only thing that works is hitting my period.. i immediately have frequent urination and I pee it all out in less than a day.

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      KJS 2 years ago

      I can't express how thankful I am for this information. Since I was 10 my family and doctors treated my for bipolar disorder, at 16 I went on birthcontrol to regulate my cycles because they were so crazy. Once I was in collge I decide to quit the antidepressants and was fine since for 8 years just on birthcontrol. Last year I decided to get in IUD and since then every month my mood swings and depression have coincided with my cycle and for one week out of the month I feel completely crazy and out of control. I pick fights with my boyfriend and days later I am so embarrassed that I was so mad about such silly things and the crying!! I will be crying and saying I just wanna stop I don't even know why I am crying. I just feel I have no control over my emotions at all. I recently was diagnosed with PMDD which totally just clicked for me and I think I have had it since I started my cycles and was misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder. My doctor wanted to put me on anti depressants again and I just broke down and cried. I hate the way they make me feel, I always feel like a flat line robot with no emotions not even the good ones. And I don't want to take a prescription all month when I feel fine 3 of the 4 weeks. So I started researching natural remedies for PMDD and I have not found a better outline and plan than yours!! I am so excited and hopeful. It's also nice to know that there is support here to come back to and read when I need encouraemt or support! Thank you!!

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      Stacey 2 years ago

      Thank you so much.

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      lady 2 years ago

      I just recently discovered I have this. Unfortunately, my boyfriend had suffered because of this and now we are separated. I'm so thankful I found your hub. What you describe with you and your boyfriend sounds like what I went through, to a T with mine. But mine couldn't take it any more with good reason. I plan to take you're advice and hopefully get my pmdd into check. It is quite possibly one of the most devastating problems I have come across, I've lost friends and a boyfriend because I get so badly out of control. It hurts in so many ways to have this. I feel like a completely different person and I just want to cry every time I hurt someone or get so angry I want to shove my head into a wall. The suicidal thoughts are also present, even though I don't normally have them. It's like being possessed and nobody believes you. But when a normally kindhearted person turns into a terror overnight, it's time to get some help. I'm happy this worked for you and I am excited that this will work for me. Bless you for sharing this information.

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      So so glad that your symptoms have reduced! And don't worry about perfection :)

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      My pleasure Emily :)

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      You're so welcome Nathalie :)

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      Wow, thank you Emily!

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      Oh you don't have to give up food that you love! It's all about moderation and balance :) it's actually very good for you to eat wholemeal bread, pasta and rice....so see if you can switch from white to wholemeal. Treat yourself to a nice big bowl of white pasta every now and then, it's not very nice to deprive yourself :)

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      Thank you Samantha :) sounds like you're already on the right track to decreasing your PMDD! It's hard to say how long it took my PMDD to decrease, because the changes would be small....and sometimes I would have a "good" month and then a "bad" month. All I can say is that it DOES get better :) finding a good therapist that I trust is one of the biggest things which have helped me. I found that the same feelings about certain past events would arise each cycle and once I've dealt with the ghosts of my past, my PMDD has become much less severe.

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      Aw thank you so much :) I hope your PMDD has decreased since you posted this.

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      It's so wonderful that you've caught this PMDD early! If only I knew when I was younger. Oh and I HATED exercise when I was a teenager, made any excuse to get out of it at school. Maybe it's a case of finding something that you actually enjoy? I remember the options at school were limited, maybe something outside of school?

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      Gosh, I can't even imagine raising a child while trying to deal with PMDD! Good on you for taking action and realising what you need to do :)

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      Chrissy 2 years ago

      I just want to say thank you so much for this posting-it gave me a lot of hope and direction in a very dark time. I have been implementing these suggestions for over a year, and not always perfectly, and it has saved my sanity! Thank you so much!

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      Emily 2 years ago

      Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing your various coping mechanisms with us. I have been struggling with what I thought was depression and anxiety for several years now, which following extensive research, I now suspect is actually PMDD.

      It really does help to know that we are not alone in our struggles. To know that we are not crazy or hysterical women; that there is an underlying cause.

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      Nathalie 2 years ago

      Same here. Very good article indeed, and also reading all the reactions of all the others helped me a big deal.

      Thank you so much!

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      Emily 2 years ago

      Thank you so much for taking the time to write this article. I agree that it is the best article I have read online period.

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      Charlene 2 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your experience. I am 38yo and was diagnosed about ten years ago. Two years ago I had an Ovary removed ( thank God) I still have symptoms although not as server. Changing my diet will be hard, I love rice and pasta! And sugar lol... However, my life depends on it. This is a progressive disease/ illness REQUIRING treatment for any relief. Thanks again!!

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      Samantha 2 years ago

      Thank you so much for writing this article! It is so hard to go through PMDD every month but I feel better knowing I am not alone! I am about to turn 20 and I realized there was something wrong a few years back. I had heard about pms in high school and I know a lot of my friends had it, but mine seemed to interfere with my life more than theirs did. After some research I came to the conclusion I had pmdd.

      I am like you and have a the symptoms each month(joy!) but My biggest problem each month is the emotional roller coaster. I start feeling different after ovulation (I have a period tracker on my phone that's how I know haha) all the way up to when my period starts. The physical symptoms are bad too but I could deal with them if the emotional ones would go away. I have been exercising and that has helped but I am wondering, how long was it after you started to change your lifestyle that the pmdd symptoms started to dramatically decrease? I have started to eat healthy and take a multivitamin as well but do you have any other advice you could give? Thank you for sharing the amazing article you really are a blessing!

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      Christina 2 years ago

      This article is amazing!!! You don't know how this has helped me. My gyn just informed me today I must be suffering from PMDD and recommended every vitamin you did . I'm going to make eating right a priority because this feeling is just not worth anything else . May God bless you for sharing!

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      Monique 2 years ago

      Hi!

      Im a teen that has recently found out about PMDD, and guess what, I to have every symtom! My mother and I both have it, so if you could just imagine the horror! The thing i have found about me having this, is how to deal with it and because of your wonderful article I can now begin to make major like changes along with my mom! Eating healthy and excercising sound so icky to us teens, especially me but if it helps with avoiding medication then im all for it, Big Thank you for this article!

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      jaime 2 years ago

      I am on your page right now, of course because this PMDD is driving me insane! I am severely fatigued, increased appetite, irritable, and feeling depressed. I was diagnosed in 2008 and I scored off the charts! My symptoms start 2 weeks before my cycle and ends as soon as my cycle starts. It's like night and day! I became vegan because of PMDD which has been very helpful. However, I have slacked off of taking magnesium and exercising. Thank you for sharing your story. It has made me realize that I MUST deal with childhood issues, see a therapist, exercise, and take vitamins. I need to try things out to see what works for me and make it a daily routine to alleviate or lessen my PMDD symptoms. I am a single mother raising a child with special needs so I need to be at my best. Again, thank you for the tips and sharing your story.

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      "Fuzzy wooly head" is such a perfect description, I can totally relate to that.

      Maybe you could try going to your doctor to see what they think just to be sure, but go there knowing that you don't have to take any medication if you aren't comfortable with the idea. There are so many wonderful natural therapies out there, I recently tried Reiki which was beautiful. Once I can afford it I will go back.

      I've also been reading that avoiding meat and dairy (meat is easy for me to avoid because I don't eat it, but dairy I need to be careful about) around ovulation and before/during your period can significantly decrease or completely prevent cramping! I'm going to try this next cycle.

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      Dizzy lass 2 years ago

      Hello

      I feel I may have been suffering this for a number of years I have always had problems prior to periods. I am on the pill and dread taking the last one each month as my body seems to go haywire due to hormones! I become bloated, have mood swings, tearful, massive loss in self confidence, not a period goes by without cramps and headaches, the tiredness is awful because my sleep is disturbed making me even more moody! Does anyone else feel like they have a fuzzy wooly head, making you clumsy/forgetful and can't get their words out? Also is dizziness another symptom? I feel sorry for my hubby sometimes having to put up with me at that time of the month, it can affect my day to day life often not wanting to go to work or making excuses not to join in things I would usually enjoy.

      Keep meaning to see my Doctor but I don't want any medicines or happy pills, I love the idea of herbal remedies.

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      So glad you're feeling a lot better! Just curious, what's a therapy visor?

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      Oh gosh, I hear you about the fatigue! It's always important to listen to your body, so if you really do feel too low in energy then take it easy and do low impact exercise like a fast walk with music pumping or just doing some simple things like sit ups, push ups and yoga. Swimming is also a great low impact exercise! Pushing yourself at this time is bad news for your adrenal glands, so be gentle with yourself. But also know the difference between too tired and "can't be bothered" :). This last statement is from personal experience, not suggesting you're lazy! But around that time I ask myself "am I really exhausted or do I just not feel like exercising?".

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      violet-femme 2 years ago from Australia

      Oh my, thank you so much Fashion Lover!

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      Melissa 2 years ago

      When I began having PMDD symptoms, I became afraid I might not survive the next period. It was such a scary experience feeling so unstable and suicidal for 48 hours per month with each worse than the last. I solved mine with a serotonin boost. I wear a light therapy visor every morning during the winter and occasionally during spri g and summer if I don't get enough outdoor time. It completely relieved the emotional side of pmdd for me. Adding in a multi vitamin then helped with other symptoms.

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      PMDDnotForMe 2 years ago

      Hello,

      As everyone else stated...this is a wonderful article with excellent advice. I wanted to see if anyone else experiences this particular issue. I exercise on a regular basis. But regular for me is 20 days out of the month because once my PMDD "kicks in" I do not have enough energy or strength to exercise.

      In addition to the symptoms you mentioned above, I also experience EXTREME FATIGUE. I am 32 years old and at around at 25 I used to wonder why certain times of the month I would almost faint from over exerting myself when attempting to work out. Now that I know I have PMDD, I have taken the natural steps mentioned above in order to reduce my symptoms. However, I have to stop exercising when my body is weak. Does anyone experience this? If so, what can I do to increase my energy to maintain my exercise? Literally the only thing I can do to get rid of my fatigue is to drink an energy drink, which I know is not the healthiest decision.

      Thank you all.

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      Fashion Lover 2 years ago

      This is the best article I've read regarding dealing with PMDD and I have read a lot!

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      It really does make a world of difference to know that the awful things we experience in life are so often very similar to those which other people live through. I'm so glad I've helped in some way!

      Hmm advice on keeping on the good mental health path.....I suppose simply making yourself a priority is the best thing. Don't feel like you need to lose your generosity or sensitivity, just make yourself number one. This could mean creating boundaries with your mother or relationships which don't seem healthy (ie learning to gently say no, learning to know what makes you uncomfortable and not partaking in those things which do, like for me I can't go back to my childhood home very often because it makes me uncomfortable).

      I can't emphasize enough how finding a good therapist helps! If you shop around and find one which "clicks" with you and helps you progress, then that is definitely going to keep you on track. I understand therapy can be expensive, but depending on where you live, there are generally mental health plans in place which can help reduce the costs if you're on a low income.

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      Samantha 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for posting this! I am 19 years old and have suffered from PMDD for a long time (okay I guess a few years but it seems like forever!) I have had a lot of issues with my mother too, and although I knew it affected me I didn't know that it contributed to my PMDD. It is so nice to know that another person has gone through the same thing I am going through and has found a way out. I knew a lot of these things before reading this but it is really hard to stay motivated when there are those low times of the month. Any advice for keeping on the path of good mental health when it is difficult?

      You are a really wonderful woman thank you again for sharing!

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      I've cut back on how many vitamins I take. But here's my daily dose: 220mg B6, 50mg B Complex, a high dose of chelated iron and 1g of Ashwaghanda in the morning. At nighttime before bed, 400mg magnesium.

      But yes, always ask a professional :)

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      Candice 3 years ago

      Are you willing to share how much of each type of vitamin/supplement you take daily? I understand it's better to ask a professional about dosage amounts, but how much did you take personally?

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Oh Cherice you are totally not alone! I'm sorry to hear that you have mother issues too, it can be really tricky. Have you thought about seeing a therapist? It has helped me immensely. Take care x

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      Cherice11 3 years ago

      Hello! I had no idea this was an actual thing. I honestly thought I was the only one that felt crazy around their period. There have been so many crying spells, snapping that I really don't know how my husband has survived! The biggest thing is feeling like I have no control in my life it is such a horrible feeling it almost makes me feel claustrophobic in some ways. I like you and many others have very serious mom issues which is where my depression stems from as well and I try to forget these things but then once a month good ole PMDD has to remind of every singe horrible thing that I have done and people have done to me. Anyway, I am so thankful for this article because it lets me know I am not alone. Thank you I will be following your tips.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Yeah it's amazing how long it can go on before realising it's linked to our cycle. Knowledge is power :)

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      Sara 3 years ago

      Wow, I've been experiencing these things for years and had no idea what it could be. The week before my period I suffer from extreme anxiety, and a lot of times it leads to arguments with my boyfriend.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      I'm sorry you experience all this crap too. I'm glad that your lifestyle choices help though! I'm the same, when I start to slack off the PMDD comes back big time, gah.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Kena, I'm sorry you experience all this crap too. I'm glad that your lifestyle choices help though! I'm the same, when I start to slack off the PMDD comes back big time, gah.

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      kena 3 years ago

      My doctor diagnosed me earlier this year with PMDD and I felt the same that I did not want to take medications. And I totally agree with all your natural remedies . I do most of those things and when I don't I suffer. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your experiences and what is helping you through this uncontrollable disorder. The one thing I need to add to my regime would be vitamins. I found juicing vegetables help me as well. One of the biggest side effects I suffer from is not sleeping, increased appetite, my mind having really bad thoughts and just being really mean to my boyfriend. Then I having crying spells because I feel so bad about my actions. But it helps to talk about. Thanks for opening the dialogue because some people don't understand.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      You're so welcome! And yes, so much of it is in the mind. It's such an awful feeling to suddenly feel crazed, for it to feel so real.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Hmm i've read about a lot of women on health forums who have had problems with copper coils. I don't know enough info about it unfortunately, but I would definitely read up on it!

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      While my tips haven't cured me, they have certainly helped a lot! How are you finding your symptoms lately?

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Oh I'm so pleased to know that you're kids are being helped through therapy! I always wonder how much better I would have turned out if I had help when I was younger. But no point dwelling on that!

      I think trying to maintain balance is a wonderful ideal, rather than tragic. It can be so hard though.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Aw thank you! It's great that you at least understand it about yourself now, I think some women never make that discovery. Good luck with your sugar reducing, it certainly helps!

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Gah I know the feeling of having to plan around my monthly cycle! It can be so frustrating, but I guess it's good to be able to get to a point where you know each of your worst days so you can avoid any trouble.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      I know what you mean, about having people just assume that the things you say are possibly just your hormones talking. If anyone ever makes that assumption, you can always gently correct them, that it may not be so.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Wow, so glad to have inspired you!

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      I'm so happy that I've helped! It's also great that it sounds like your boyfriend is quite in tune with you.

      How are you finding your symptoms lately?

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      I'm sorry it's been so hard for you. You've tried so many different avenues too!

      I wouldn't worry too much about cutting out grains, it's just more so about eating enough protein and vegetables....rather than eating carb loaded meals to satisfy your hunger.

      I've been deliberately eating more "good" fats lately, like coconut oil, avocados and using more butter in my cooking. I've read that not eating enough fat can make you depressed. Maybe this would help you feel more satisfied?

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Gosh I don't know how I would go having PMDD AND being a mother! I hope you're able to take time out for yourself :)

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      You're so welcome! And wow, you're a teenager and already have a grasp on your PMDD, that's so great! It will make such a difference in your life to be able to take control sooner.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Aw, I'm so glad that my article helped push you in the right direction! How are you finding your PMDD these days?

      I'm sorry I took forever to reply! I had stopped checking my hubs until now.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      You're so very welcome!

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      Sorry for not replying sooner, I didn't think people were reading my page!

      How has your PMDD been going? I have "ah ha" moments too where I realise specific days are just mayhem for my body.

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      violet-femme 3 years ago from Australia

      I'm so sorry I didn't respond to your lovely comments sooner, I actually hadn't paid much attention to Hub Pages for a long time because I just didn't think people were reading my articles. I guess I was very wrong!

      I'm so so so glad my article has been helpful for you all, I can't tell you how much it means to me to know that it has inspired people to take steps in improving their lives.

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      AshC 3 years ago

      Thank you for such an informative article. I am pretty sure I suffer from this. It's slightly worrying as it's mostly in the mind and I have never felt like this before. Only the past yr or so has it become so horrid. I'm going to try cutting out the sugar to begin with and see how it goes. Thank you though. Before reading this article I was in a right state! Have a lovely sugar free Christmas, if possible!

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      Gazelle 3 years ago

      Thank you for posting this. There's so little information on the web about PMDD and the only proposed form of treatment seems to be antidepressants.. Not good news if your only problem is PMDD and you're happy as larry for the rest of the month! I was wondering whether you know anything about the connection between PMDD and the Paraguard copper coil? I never had PMDD in my life, and ever since I got the coil I have it reliably on a monthly basis. Thanks again for the article, all the best.

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      Ashley 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for sharing this! I have had PMDD for about 3.5 years now although I had a break from it after falling pregnant with my second son. It is back now though and I am once again trying to figure out how to best manage it. I would LOVE to manage it without medication and am so glad to hear of someone else who has been able to do this. It gives me hope that I will not have to suffer with this for many years to come.

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      Thai 3 years ago

      Thank You! lol your mother sounds like me with the vitamins. I realized that my Toxic parents is the reason behind my fight of flight and now I have the blessing of trying to get my children into therapy to assist them with their genetic curse. If I knew then what I know now I wouldn't have pass this on. Its tragic that my day to day focus is maintaining balance. Sucks but nice to know we are not alone.

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      Angel 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for this. I turn 40 in two days and OH, how I wish I'd understood this about myself much sooner. I'd been thinking along the lines of all you said and I KNOW that preparing for it by minimizing sugar intake in all forms will help tremendously. This is confirmation of so much for me. I appreciate you.

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      Natashia 3 years ago

      This is a great article and definitely encourages me to pursue a healthier lifestyle. I am getting very desperate as the PMDD is getting worse! It is lasting for 10 days and the symptoms are increasingly intense. I am 29. I believe I started having symptoms around 25, but did not know what it was. Anyway it is getting to a point where I need to take action or I am afraid for my life! Once I start my period I am completely fine. It’s almost as if I am a hot air balloon (during PMDD) and then once my period starts the balloon has deflated. I feel so calm and relieved when my period starts. I can’t plan events or outings during PMDD time. It really is preventing me from living a full life. I am on a mission to reduce the symptoms. I refuse to take anti-depressants or birth control. Somehow I think that would make me crazier…LOL. Good luck to all and I hope there is a cure soon!!

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      SherylD 3 years ago

      Wow I really appreciate reading your article. I struggle with telling my significant other about my condition because I am not sure they will understand because sometimes people may think it is like regular PMS and it is much more severe than PMS. Also too I don’t want every feeling I express to be associated with that when it may have nothing to do with that.

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      Valerie 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for posting! I'm so sick of doctors talking down to me about all the pharmaceutical things I need to do for my psych issues when I know the issue is PMDD and I want to handle it in a natural way. Where every avenue of help has got me feeling defeated and hopeless, this gives me hope. Thank you again.

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      Soaps 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for this article, I felt so broken before but now I see that so many other women have dealt with the same thing! My boyfriend always told me my mood would go "in a cycle", I just didn't realize before how right he was. I always thought I was just having bad PMS, now that I have an actual cause and a list of things to do I feel like things will start to be easier, even this week I can see a drastic difference! Your article has helped stress to me the importance of taking vitamins daily and not skipping out on routine! I have made a bad habit of not taking proper care of myself but when the consequences are so severe by not taking them I realize now I need to! This isn't something i can just will away. Everyone needs a little help :). Thank you again lady!

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      AmieRobinEinerson 3 years ago from Lubbock, Texas

      Thanks for this article. I am in the midst of suffering greatly with pmdd as we speak. It is a huge struggle and thoughts of suicide scare me. This is the first month that I have been off my anti depressant in over a year and a half and haven't had thoughts of suicide until now. I REALLY don't want to have to take an antidepressant for this, but feel that it is necessary. The way I am treating my husband and my kids is inexcusable and the symptoms were not near as bad as they are now that I am not on my anti depressant. I desperately want to try to control this problem with good diet habits. I have exercise down pat, get enough sleep, but my diet is average. I have been trying to cut down on carbs, sugars, and dairy, but to no avail. I just find myself hungry and more onry. I'm not sure how to get enough calories when I don't eat grains, or dairy. I can go for a few days like this, but then feel very deprived and give up. How much does going grain free help this problem? I am really at a loss right now, and I just don't know where to turn or what to do (pmdd confused/overwhelmed symptom!) Also, what role does birth control play in pmdd? I am trying new birth controls, but not sure which one is best. I've heard they can make the symptoms worse, so I'm really scared to even use birth controls. I've heard YAZ is the best for PMDD sufferers, but the side effects of it scare me. My doc put my on a triphasic birth control (tri-legest fe) that has increasing levels of hormones throughout the month because I have been telling her how bad my moods get near the end of my cycle. I guess I will have to see how it works for me this month. This will be my 2nd switch in the last 6 months. I tried LoLoesterine, and it was horrible! She thought that maybe taking a birthcontrol that made me skip my period would help the symptoms, but it just made them much much worse, and last for the entire month rather than 14 days. Before that I was on Orthotrycyclin lo. On this combined with an antidepressant, I still had two weeks of the month that were bad, but not as bad as its been this month without the anti depressant.

      I have been taking mag/calcium, B complex, astragulus root, yam cream to help with this problem, but again...the way I feel this month is an indicator to me that I just simply can't cope without an anti depressant. I would like to, but...suicidal thoughts are not good when you have 3 little kids and a husband who need you.

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      Sarah 3 years ago

      Your article is so refreshing! I have suffered on and off with PMDD for several years. Your article was such a great reminder of all the things that are essential for diminishing the symptoms each month. Thank you for putting this together! I am a 39 year old struggling to be a great wife and great mother of 2 girls during my pmdd days. I am hopeful to be able to pass info off to my girls as they get older. Thanks again!

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      Heather Marie 3 years ago

      I cannot thank you enough for this article, as it is extremely insightful and helpful. I'm a teenager, and my therapist recently suggested that I might have PMDD, and after reading all this... I have every symptom in the book. Thank you so much for this, really. I'll be using this as an outline to mold new habits and hopefully lessen the symptoms. Thank you thank you thank you!!!

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      Hails 3 years ago

      I've just come across this article, and found it very helpful, thanks! I've suspected this is what I have, though not as severe as you and many others. I have finally decided to start doing something about it, as it seems to be getting worse, and also lasting longer. I always thought it would only be a week before my period, but I'm 10 days out and all my symptoms have been appearing =( i pretty much cried throughout your article. I think it's time to stop feeling sorry for myself each month, start taking my vitamins again, eat better and exercise more...thank you!

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      Denia 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for this article! It is so good to see we are not alone and that PMDD can be treated. Thanks again!

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      Southernyogi mama 3 years ago

      I just came across your article and I say thank you! I have just discovered I have this and want to treat it naturally before using medication. I am going to try aerobic activity, black cohosh supplements and dandelion tea. The past two months have been horrible and prompted me to back track and ah ha-same days each month-hormone dip following ovulation. I may try the magnesium supplement to. Wish me luck and good on you!

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      violet-femme 4 years ago from Australia

      Hello Thelma, thank you for your kind words! Yup, PMDD can get so bad that you just want to end your life. BUT luckily those feelings go away once your period starts or towards the end of that week, so there is some reprieve from those feelings at least.

      Do you find magnesium helps you to sleep more deeply?

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      Thelma Alberts 4 years ago from Germany

      Hi! I have not heard about PMDD before and thanks for explaining it in this hub. The symptoms sound so horrible and scary to me. Imagine, thinking about ending ones life. I hope you feel better now and be always positive of what you are doing and thinking. You´re right with the magnesium. I´m taking it, too. Thumbs up for this hub.

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      Dale Hyde 4 years ago from Tropical Paradise on Planet X

      As for finding effective ways of dealing with the painful conditions associated with fibromyalagia, my wife does the best she can. I can tell you this, she is in pain pretty much each and every day.

      I will look forward to your guide/hub to help men better understand being with a "moody" woman. Sounds most interesting.

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      violet-femme 4 years ago from Australia

      Thank you so much Dale Hyde, such a wonderful first comment to receive!

      What a lovely husband to take the time to better understand your wife! I'm always taken aback when my partner will forward me a link about PMDD or something else related to my mood problems, knowing that he cares makes a world of difference.

      PMDD is new to many people, anyone I talk to about it has never actually heard of it, ever! It used to be brushed off as just monthly women's nonsense.

      I can't believe fibromyalagia took years to be recognized! You learn something new every day, I hope your wife has found effective ways to relieve the pain.

      Stay posted, I'm currently writing a guide to help men better understand being with a 'moody' woman. Yes we can be full on at times, but we're worth it :)

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      Dale Hyde 4 years ago from Tropical Paradise on Planet X

      A remarkably well done and informative hub! It may surprise you that I, being a male, would be popping in and reading this, however I am married, so learning about such things does help me at times. I also work with others on various healing levels so new information and well presented information is always welcome. PMDD is a new to me, however upon reading how others are not aware of this and dismiss it, it reminds me of what my wife suffers from and how it took years to be recognized as an actual ailment, fibromyalagia.

      Voted up, useful and informative.

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